Would you like a mini-quiche? How about a Mojito? There’s plenty ready, since Bacardi makes them by the bottle now.
So glad you could stop by for my turn at the Barren Bi+ches Book Brigade book tour for Happiness Sold Separately.
I liked this book just fine, but it took me 6 weeks to read. I enjoyed reading it, but it didn’t beg me to pick it up every night. While I related to both Elinor and Gina, and they seemed 3-dimensional and sympathetic, neither swam in my head during the day as I went about my business.
Here are my three questions & answers:
1. The end of the book was left open to the reader. Do you think that Elinor and Ted stayed together, or that they really finally separated? Did she pursue adoption on her own, or did they do another round of IVF with PGD? Do you think she ended up happy, or did she continue to struggle?
When I finished the book, the ending, to me, was clear. Elinor was finally seeing her situation as it was — not how she thought it should be — and was ready to let Ted go. Not violently, like she mulched the IF books, or self-destructively, like she cut her hair with pinking shears. But just surrendering. Like she did to losing Warren. It hurt, but it she knew it had to happen.
I see her moving on to international adoption on her own. And because she decided to stop struggling against the current, I think she eventually does find happiness. Because she figured out how to surrender to it.
May I refresh your drink?
2. Ted seeks solace in the garage and the gym — places where he can “fix” things. Elinor finds refuge in the laundry room and by re-reading classic novels from college. Why is Elinor drawn to these activities? What activities do you engage in to soothe your soul during your fertility quest and why? What about your partner?
Elinor is drawn to the past. She re-reads classic novels from college and acts like a carefree co-ed when she goes to the bar with Kat. My guess is that she reverts back to the time when all of life — and myriad choices — were ahead of her. But she is actually feeling that at 40, so many doors have closed behind her. And she questions her choices, as they didn’t lead her to happiness.
Me? I wrote. A LOT. Spewed poison and venom and anger and sadness and despair all over my old laptop and into my writing journals. I lived 6000 miles away from home. I was teaching middle schoolers, and our affection for each other kept me afloat. I also felt the need to create. In this time period I wrote a children’s story, began painting pots, and in played flute in a weekly sing-along with our ex-pat community.
Roger played a lot of team sports. Intramurals among faculty were big at our international school.
And he ran. And ran and ran.
3. Elinor seeks the comfort of odd places. At first it is in the laundry room, and then later changes to the oak tree in her yard. I think we all try to find comfort to help us make it through the bad patches. What were/are your sources of comfort?
I really hate to be barefoot. I take after my dad in that. Even in the house, I usually have on flip-flops or slippers. But when I’m in a bad patch, I do love to walk barefooted on a lush green lawn. I love to feel that connection to the verdant earth and all that feminine energy.
And I read. I got lost in someone else’s problems. When I came back to mine, they sometimes seemed less catastrophic.
I wish, at the time, I’d been able to connect with this community. You ladies (and a few gentlemen) are amazing.
Thanks for visiting. Hope I’ll see you again here before The Handmaid’s Tale.
I owe the existence of this blog (and it’s sister, Drama 2B Mama) to the Barren Bi+ches Book Tour. Back in the Spring, I read Waiting for Daisy and googled it to find out more. At the top of the search list was Stirrup Queens’ Barren Bi+tches Book Brigade. Melissa, the first blogger I ever “met” said, “all you need is a book and a blog.” I was so excited about “talking” with others about this book, about not needing to actually go to anyone’s house or clean my own, that I took the plunge and began blogging.
So, blogless readers, maybe you should do the same. I’d love to read what you think about our upcoming choices.
Setting up a blog is easy. In the upper right corner of my blog, you see a link to “Create blog.” Click it and follow the directions.
You’ll be blogging in time for the next book tour. Speaking of which, here’s a word from our sponsor…
Intrigued by the idea of a book tour and want to read more about Happiness Sold Separately? Hop along to more stops on the Barren Bitches Book Tour by visiting the master list at http://stirrup-queens.blogspot.com/. Want to come along for the next tour? Sign up begins today for tour #8 (The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood) and all are welcome to join along . All you need is a book and blog.