My friend Joanne has a terrific post about one aspect of adoption language and its effect on a child of adoption.
Here’s an excerpt of a letter Joanne sent to her daughter’s Girl Scout leader a couple of months ago:
“Shawna told me about the stockings and that it was said in meeting that the troop is “adopting” two children for the holidays. I explained to her that the correct term to use in a case like this is “sponsoring”. I’m wondering if you can bring this up on Tuesday because using the word “adopting” (when clearly the troop is not adopting two children) sends mixed messages (not only to adoptees but society at large) as to what adoption actually is. Most people (unless you’ve adopted like us or are an adoptee like Shawna), don’t give it much though until someone points it out.”
You can read the Girl Scout leader’s positive response and the ensuing discussion at Forever Parents.
I see Adopt-a-Highway signs on my way to my kids’ school each day and haven’t given it much thought. I guess I’ll be writing a letter to my city council. I hope to advocate for my kids as well as Joanne does.