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Eyewitness Accounts

I’m going to confess. I’ve been using an alias for my husband’s name all this time. He’s not really a Rob; he’s a Roger.

Why am I telling you this now? Because I have some links to share, links that use his real name. We’re stepping out of the bloggy witness protection program into the sunshine.

Our friend Mark, who I mentioned here, has posted his account of the accident. You can find it on the most excellently named blog, Suburbistan [now password protected].

Another bachelor party attendee, Ian, whipped out his video camera after the accident. watching it was a little disturbing, yet I also needed to see it to get my own mind to stop trying to re-create the events. It is oddly calming to have the actual footage instead of that of my inner Stephen Spielberg. Roger watched it and said it’s not disturbing to him.

Feel free to skip.

Roger is doing much better today. He’s holding court with batches of visitors, his voice strong, his jokes flowing. I can tell just from his ability to talk with normal force that he’s recovering his lung function. The chest tube is not flowing clear yet, but it is improving. He’s also able to do two laps around the ward at a time. Clotting is still not permitting an epidural; I think that option is no longer on the table (but it may also not be necessary).

I am doing mo’ betta, too. I read many of your comments right before I went to bed last night, and I slept well. I went to a yoga class this morning, and have taken the time to eat well.

Thank you all so much for your loving care. “Verklempt” is a word made for this occasion. Truly.

30 Responses

  1. My Reality: Yes! I am. But Tessa and Reed are not Tessa and Reed. They have unique names, too googleable for when they become pre-teens. I’ve told MY stories, which are also THEIR stories, and it was the best way to give them some measure of privacy.

    Back in the day, Roger didn’t want me blogging about him. Having a pseudonym was our compromise. But he’s gotten over it now.

    But me? I’m a true Lori.

  2. I watched the video and had a major flashback to my EMS days. Those guys were good and knew what they are doing. I’m so glad Roger (that felt weird to say) is continuing to improve.

    And, Ms Lori, continue to take care of yourself.

  3. Wow. Watching the medics work is odd. You don’t usually see that up close and personal. It is amazing to see how quick they can do their stuff.

    So, are you really a Lori?

  4. Reading Mark’s account reminds me how unappealing car racing is to me.

    A boy with whom I once thought I was in love grew up to be a pro racer. Aside from being quite happy with my actual husband, I am so glad I did not end up with him. Having a husband whose most likely on-the-job injury is carpal tunnel syndrome from too much typing is so much better than covering my eyes during every race or waiting by the phone for that call.

    On the upside, you can use this experience as a cautionary tale when it’s time for the kids to start driving.

    Just finishing the last bite of fudge from the box you bought me! It really is uncommonly good. Thanks!

  5. Glad to hear he is doing better!

    I’m having trouble with the new name though!! Odd…….

  6. What stuck me (another stellar choice of words, LOL!) about the video was how fast the emergency response was. They had your hubby outta there in 5 minutes! I’m glad to hear he is doing better. I hate IVs, let alone a tube in my chest!

    I’m so sorry you’ll be missing your family event. Watching your loved one in pain is exhausting. I’ve sure you hubby is benefiting from your wonderful bedside manner. I have a feeling we’ll be calling you Nurse Lavender from now on!

  7. My Reality: Yes! I am. But Tessa and Reed are not Tessa and Reed. They have unique names, too googleable for when they become pre-teens. I’ve told MY stories, which are also THEIR stories, and it was the best way to give them some measure of privacy.

    Back in the day, Roger didn’t want me blogging about him. Having a pseudonym was our compromise. But he’s gotten over it now.

    But me? I’m a true Lori.

  8. I watched the video and had a major flashback to my EMS days. Those guys were good and knew what they are doing. I’m so glad Roger (that felt weird to say) is continuing to improve.

    And, Ms Lori, continue to take care of yourself.

  9. Wow. Watching the medics work is odd. You don’t usually see that up close and personal. It is amazing to see how quick they can do their stuff.

    So, are you really a Lori?

  10. Reading Mark’s account reminds me how unappealing car racing is to me.

    A boy with whom I once thought I was in love grew up to be a pro racer. Aside from being quite happy with my actual husband, I am so glad I did not end up with him. Having a husband whose most likely on-the-job injury is carpal tunnel syndrome from too much typing is so much better than covering my eyes during every race or waiting by the phone for that call.

    On the upside, you can use this experience as a cautionary tale when it’s time for the kids to start driving.

    Just finishing the last bite of fudge from the box you bought me! It really is uncommonly good. Thanks!

  11. Glad to hear he is doing better!

    I’m having trouble with the new name though!! Odd…….

  12. What stuck me (another stellar choice of words, LOL!) about the video was how fast the emergency response was. They had your hubby outta there in 5 minutes! I’m glad to hear he is doing better. I hate IVs, let alone a tube in my chest!

    I’m so sorry you’ll be missing your family event. Watching your loved one in pain is exhausting. I’ve sure you hubby is benefiting from your wonderful bedside manner. I have a feeling we’ll be calling you Nurse Lavender from now on!

  13. I’m so relieved to hear Roger’s doing better and that you are taking care of yourself. He did seem extremely calm in the video; not sure if it was shock or composure, but everyone else seemed calm too which I’m sure was a big help.

  14. Not that the video was too bad or anything but it seems like such a ‘man’ thing to do. If one of my girlfriends was injured, the last thing on my mind would be to video the rescue. I guess men really are from Mars . . .

    Exactly one year ago today, for Hubby’s birthday, I threw him a birthday party for he and his buddies at a local race track just like that one. I am sooooo glad I’m reading about this now and not last year – just before the race but after I had put down my deposit.

    Glad you are all on the up!

  15. OMG!! I’m glad everything is OK (reasonably speaking). I hope your hubby heals quickly and effortlessly. I’m around the corner so if you need a break, I can babysit, bring food, whatever is needed. Just let me know.

  16. The video was upsetting to me, too! It’s so scary, how quickly our loved ones can end up in trouble. It’s wonderful that he got the care he needed, they did an excellent job with him.

    I’m glad you told us his real name. I’d been praying for the wrong guy. Hopefully God reads your blog and knows who I meant. 😉

  17. I’m so glad he’s improving. It was interesting to watch the video, if only to see that firies dress alike all over the world. 🙂

    I’m still thinking of you all and hoping it’s all a lot less scary for the kids (and you both) now.

  18. OMG,I’m just catching up on my blog reading (I’m not on Twitter very often) so I apologize – I just found out what happened to your husband! Oh, Lori, I am so happy he’s okay. Holy cow, he was really banged up! You must have been so scared. Oh, nam myo ho renge kyo – I will chant for his continued recovery.

  19. Holding you & Roger in my heart. And thanking the universe that the kiddos have something to keep them occupied, and out of your hair.

    Sending healing thoughts to both of you.

    {{{{{hugs}}}}}

  20. HOLY COW how scary…I am so thankful that he is alright and glad you are able to be taking care of yourself.

    Lots of prayers for a continued fast and full recovery.

  21. Brought back memories of working in the ER as a Respiratory Therapist. Glad he is doing better. Hope he heels quickly.

  22. I’m always amazed (but really shouldn’t be) at how quick our medical teams are out here. I’m so glad he’s doing better, and I can’t wait for him to be home!

    And, I don’t have to refer to him as R anymore! 😉

  23. I’m way behind in my reader and just saw this. I’m glad he’s doing better, how scary. I’ll keep you all in my thoughts and prayers (now that I have the right name to pray for 😉

  24. Just catching up on some blog reading (I’m on vacation & computer time is sporadic). I can’t bring myself to watch that video. Sending you some hugs & healing vibes.

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