Perfect Moment Monday: Chinstrap time travel

September 5, 2010

in Mindfulness, Parenting, Perfect Moment, Reed, Tessa

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Here’s a perfect moment from my week. I hope you’ll share yours, too.


This is a moment I plan to savor on my deathbed. I took care to emblazon it on my psyche.


Each morning since school began, the kids and I strap on our helmets, mount our bicycles and ride ¾ mile to their school. I make sure they’re OK locking up their bikes in the bicycle cage and then I pedal home. At the end of the school day, I zoom back to school, meet them at the cage, and we ride home together. In just two weeks this has become a treasured ritual. We get fresh air, exercise, a joint activity, and time to talk while in motion.

Friday morning, the kids were already on their bikes while I was still putting on my helmet. They buzzed around our circle waiting for me. It was a beautiful sunny morning, temps in the mid 60s. The grass is still green, the heavens a gorgeous azure, the flowers vibrantly colorful, the air so clean you want to inhale the entire sky into your lungs. I paused to notice, really notice, what was going on.

And then a curious thing happened, in the mere time it takes to click a chinstrap.

I marveled that the two teeny-tiny babies that I’d schlepped in infant car seats, that I’d toddled down driveways, that I’d left, crying with separation anxiety, in pre-school classrooms, that these two amazing beings had become such independent, active and generally happy children. In the blink of an eye, a filmstrip covering 9+ years of parenting ran through my mind.

And the phenomenon continued, from the present day forward. I could see Tessa, her legs splayed in the “wheeee” position while she coasted the arc of the circle, sporting braces, then wearing a formal dress and corsage with her right hand on her date’s chest in the classic prom-photo pose. I could see Reed, working on his wheelies, in a gown with a mortarboard atop his head and diploma in hand as he graduates from my alma mater. I see them each in wedding-wear, gazing with devotion into their beloveds’ eyes, then becoming parents themselves, teaching their children, my grandchildren, to ride bikes.

Best of all? I returned to right now. This perfect, delicious, endless moment with my children.

I am so lucky.


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{ 20 comments… read them below or add one }

a September 5, 2010 at 8:11 pm

Now that sounds lovely. Could you send some of that to Mel? She could use some help with transitions!


Denise September 5, 2010 at 9:27 pm

Goose. Bumps.


Delenn September 5, 2010 at 9:56 pm

What a perfectly transportive moment. I wish I could bike with my kids…maybe next summer… :-)


Erica September 6, 2010 at 6:19 am

I got chills reading this. As we drove home from our cottage yesterday I kept looking back at Min man as he went from song to song for the 3 hour drive. He talks and sings the whole way home. I love looking at him in his car seat. I did the same thing with him. I envisioned him coming home and saying, Mom, I’m getting married. I know it is going to go by so fast. He is already 3 1/2. I am savoring every moment.


Sheri September 6, 2010 at 9:21 am

It’s hard to believe those two little bundles are getting so big!

The moment sounds Perfect and your writing is beautiful.

Thanks for sharing your Perfect Moment!


luna September 6, 2010 at 1:22 pm

tears, beautiful tears.
I love the image, all the images.


Kristin September 6, 2010 at 1:30 pm

Oh Lori, that sounds like such a wonderful moment. What a great way to share your time together


Rachel September 6, 2010 at 8:37 pm

Seems like we were on the same wavelength, sorta kinda, for this PMM. Wonderful moments to enjoy the here and now rather than the past or future.

So hard to imagine my “little” brother-in-law becoming a father in a few weeks when it was just yesterday I met the husband’s family and the brother was a cocky teenager.


Amber's Crazy Bloggin' Canuck September 6, 2010 at 8:52 pm

And it never would have happened if you hadn’t switched schools. :)

I just LOVE how sometimes the most precious moments are the most simple and fleeting ones!


Mama Bird September 7, 2010 at 12:32 am

I just love this ritual of riding your bikes together to school! How fun! Something I’m sure they’ll look back on as treasured moments too.


Ziggy September 7, 2010 at 1:04 am

Beautiful. Perfect. I love it :)


Jason September 7, 2010 at 2:37 pm

I need someone to tap on my shoulder a few times a day to say, “Are you watching for those perfect moments?”

Sometimes I think I let them go unnoticed.


Dora September 7, 2010 at 2:59 pm

Yes! Very lucky. Me, too. :-)


mrs spock September 7, 2010 at 5:33 pm

I am having a Fiddler On The Roof moment….Sunrise, Sunset….makes me want to snuggle my baby while he is still small.


Mel September 7, 2010 at 7:50 pm

My heart can barely handle the jump to 5 minutes from now — I think it might explode from that scene :-) But it was beautifully captured with words.


Quiet Dreams September 8, 2010 at 10:51 am

Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful.

This added so much to my day. Thank you for sharing this.


jill September 9, 2010 at 1:53 pm

Wow – what a beautiful post. When I think of having children, I think about these types of moments and I’m so glad that someone actually raising children is taking time to enjoy :)


Kir September 10, 2010 at 11:37 am

Oh Lori, that was so beautiful, my eyes are so full of tears. :)
Wow…it’s amazing, to be able to see that far back and that far ahead..and smile all the way.

PERFECT, indeed. :)


flying monkeys September 10, 2010 at 11:16 pm

Great post! I made me smile. : )


flying monkeys September 10, 2010 at 11:17 pm

Um…that should say it, meaning your post…though I often do crack myself up. ; )


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