One-Woman Show

January 15, 2014

in Vlog

To find one of my evergreenest posts, you’d have to go back 6½ years, back to my early days of blogging in 2007. You’d think that said post would have to do with open adoption or chakras or Perfect Moment Mondays, or something that I’m known for writing about.

But you’d be wrong. What Google sends to me most aren’t people searching for “what causes adoption” or “which chakra is for sex” or “my husband’s panties” or “today show experts” or “% of marriages that end in divorce” (though all of these are in the running) — but this one:

you must pay the rent

Nearly 7 years later, I have added a short video to that very popular post. Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you Lori Lavender Luz starring in her 30-second one-woman, one-act, one-prop play!

I’ve spent years resolving my own victim tendencies (“the world is against me — look at all the proof I have”), as you can see from my latest post. The other two roles not so much.

So I ask you:

Is there a dramatic role you tend to play in your life — victim, hero, villain?

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{ 11 comments… read them below or add one }

a January 15, 2014 at 9:14 am

I am generally the audience. I observe, listen, and respond.

Nice performance…are you going to play that for an ice-breaker on your children’s prom nights? :)


Gina St. Aubin January 15, 2014 at 12:02 pm



Justine January 15, 2014 at 8:48 pm

This is your next book. :)


Justine January 15, 2014 at 8:53 pm

And (so swept away was I by the performance and previous post that I didn’t answer your question): I play the victim for myself, but also the villain. The hero for others, as much as I can. I LIVE on heroism. Probably because I’m NOT a hero to myself.


Lisa @ Grandma's Briefs January 16, 2014 at 8:22 am

You nut! The perils of Pauline ain’t got nothin’ on you.

I tend to play the hero, always trying to give the right advice, say the magic words that make things okay.


Addison Cooper January 16, 2014 at 7:18 pm

Ha! Love it!


Sharon Greenthal January 17, 2014 at 4:02 pm

So funny! We used to do that at summer camp over and over.


Cristy January 17, 2014 at 4:04 pm

LOVE!!! And the highlight of my week. Can’t wait for the sequel! ;)


Lori Lavender Luz January 17, 2014 at 4:07 pm

“You must mow the lawn. You must mow the lawn. You must mow the lawn today.”


Barbara Freedgood January 19, 2014 at 4:58 pm

I see why this is such a popular post. I think your comparison of the adoption triad members to the three roles in “you must pay the rent” is brilliant! Hero, villain, victim are all positions we can all too easily slip into as participants in adoption. Righteous I suppose is a quality that any of those characters can assume as well, foreclosing on complication, understanding and, as you point out again and again, open-heartedness. Thank you for the reminder not to wallow!


Seriously?! January 23, 2014 at 7:35 pm

I came out of hiding and just HAD to share my little giggle on this one!!!! Nice work!!!!

To dig deeper now, interesting enough I just had a conversation yesterday with a girlfriend as to what my ‘role’ seems to be with our OA. Or what I’ve let it be…’hero’. With recent geographically separation now between us, I am finding relief in NOT being that role anymore and am reflecting as to why I let myself be in it. So hard when there are other children involved in the ‘triad’. That’s my ‘weakness’ for sure.

A work in progress indeed…

In the mean time, the oscars are coming soon…I”ll be sure to slip in your nomination for best ‘short’ film.



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