CLOSURE Film: Review & Special Denver Screening Information

April 14, 2014

in Adoptee, Adoption, Adoptive parenting

Angela Tucker is a transracial adoptee who joined a family in the Pacific Northwest after being born in the South and placed into the foster care system. Closure is a film that documents Angela’s two-year search for her birth family and its efect on her, her adoptive family, her husband, and, of course, members of her birth family.

Denver Showing Offers Q&A with Angela Tucker & Filmmaker Bryan Tucker

A special Denver screening of this film will take place on May 7 and May 8, sponsored by the Colorado Department of Human Services and Adoption Options in celebration of Foster Care Month. These events begin at 7 pm and are held at the Sie Film Center at 2510 E Colfax. Due to limited space, advance tickets are highly recommended.

What makes this screening so special? Angela Tucker and filmmaker Bryan Tucker will appear after the film’s showing to answer audience questions.

And I’ll be joining their panel the evening of May 8. I’d love to see you there.

Angela Tucker film ClosureClosure is a gripping story full of emotional highs and lows, and it gives adoptive parents like me a peek into the hidden wonderings adoptees can have about their origins and the pressures they may feel to act on their curiosity — or not to.

From Either/Or to Both/And

As Angela’s story unfolds, I witnessed how some members of her adoptive family began in an Either/Or mindset — either WE’re her family or THEY are. But out of their love for Angela, these same people were eventually able to cultivate a Both/And heartset. For example, Angela’s adoptive sister asks, “Aren’t our parents enough?” And Angela’s mom says early on, “I did worry about being replaced as a mom because I wasn’t sure I could handle that because they were MY kids.”

But later, Angela’s mom says, “As Angela got older I really felt deeply like I was her mom. In her 20s I realized it wasn’t going to change my status as being her mom if she found her birth mother. And I became as curious as her. Who was her birth mother? What’s her story?”

The power of family member’s love for Angela and their security in her love for them help make the crucial shift that supports Angela in her pursuits. I adore this depiction, and wish all adopting and adoptive parents could see how easily such a shift can be made.

I’ll leave you in suspense about how birth family relationships develop. Who is found? How meandering is the search? Who embraces Angela and who denies her? What happens at first meetings? What happens after that?

I urge you to watch this film (if you’re not able to attend the screening, you may also rent or buy the film, starting at $4.99)

The theater is small and the event is expected to sell out, so get your tickets now.

“For the rest of my life I’ll be connected”

I’ll share two more quotes from Angela’s birth family members that stood out for me.

  • What you do in the dark will come to the light. She thought this secret would never come to light. She needs to get over it…She needs to forgive herself. Once she forgives herself, then the lines of communication will be open.
  • Through a child one day, we all got connected whether we knew it or not. We were connected. For the rest of my life I’ll be connected.

Angela Tucker blogs at The Adopted Life and will return to Colorado this summer to mentor young adoptees at the African Caribbean Heritage Camp.

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Geochick April 14, 2014 at 11:58 am

OOOH, Thanks for pointing this out! I’m going to host a meetup for TAFicity for Wednesday (sadly, I can’t make it on Thursday to see you too).

Thanks for the comments. :) I have moderation turned on so maybe that’s why you didn’t see your first comment? Both of them showed up in my list.

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Caspian April 14, 2014 at 12:05 pm

I watched this a couple months ago, great film. I thought it was excellent at showing the entire triad, even the foster Mother! Great job Angela!

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Kelly April 14, 2014 at 1:15 pm

I loved this movie. At times it was hard to watch (felt like an intrusion) but agree that her adoptive family was so super supportive and I hope to be that supportive if/when my boys want to search.

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Addison Cooper April 14, 2014 at 10:11 pm

Closure is a wonderful film! I’m glad all of you have connected!

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Cheryl April 15, 2014 at 9:54 am

I’ve seen this film and it is a must see. Enjoy!!!!

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Lesli April 15, 2014 at 11:39 am

It’s a great adoption documentary! 

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Carol Cassara April 16, 2014 at 9:55 am

I’ll be on the lookout for this.

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shannon2818 April 18, 2014 at 9:40 pm

This sounds like an amazing film. I hope we find our kids’ first family someday.

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