Category Archives: Adoption

Adoption Summit Experience: You’re Invited & It’s FREE

National Adoption Awareness Month is almost here. I, along with several others who are passionate about improving the state of adoption and helping to heal those living in it, have put together something special for you: The Adoption Summit Experience.

adoption summit experienceFrom a recent press release:

Tuesday October 20, 2015 (Los Alamos, NM):

Question: What do you get when you bring together adult adoptees with parents by birth and adoption to talk about their relinquishment and adoption experiences, family building practices and views on needed legislative reform?   Answer: Usually an assortment of passionate opinions, raw emotions, misunderstandings and “unfriending” on Facebook.

But something different is coming during November, National Adoption Month, this year. Adoptee and former foster parent LeAnne Parsons has teamed up with birth/first mother Ashley Mitchell to assemble an impressive collaboration of speakers for a free online seminar called “Come Climb With Us: the 2015 Adoption Summit Experience.” Continue reading Adoption Summit Experience: You’re Invited & It’s FREE

It’s Dawning on Folks that Adoption Isn’t a One-Time Event

I’m seeing a pattern, connecting dots.

adoption isn't a one-time event

I was at the library the other day and noticed that our adoption agency had fliers on the table. I picked one up.

Inside are questions: Are you worried about attachment? Does your child ask “why was I given up”?  Is your child experiencing anger, depression, mood swings, isolation? Continue reading It’s Dawning on Folks that Adoption Isn’t a One-Time Event

What Do I Do When She Lies to My Face?

open adoption adviceQuestion:  Our son’s birth mom has been telling lies about what happens at visits. She said we didn’t let our our 3 year-old open his Christmas gifts from her. He opened them right in front of her! (He was running around not really focusing on any one present). She also lied and said that we’ve cancelled previous visits and came up with excuses for not seeing her, neither of which are true.

This has become a nightmare. She’s cut us off, which is fine with us because we’re not crazy about having contact with someone who lies to our face. This isn’t what we thought open adoption would be.  — Jessica

Jessica’s initial message led to further email conversations.

Take Out The Adoption Charge

Hi, Jessica. I’m curious. How would you handle a similar situation if this behavior were coming from your sister or mother-in-law? If you think of it this way, you can distill your response to her behavior from the any emotions you may have around your connection with her via adoption (which can be highly-charged).

Continue reading What Do I Do When She Lies to My Face?

Yes, We DO Need Adoption-Competent Hospital Birthing Centers

Hospitals continually strive to improve so many aspects of patient care. What improvements are being made in the way we “do” adoption at the hospital?

Pioneered in Colorado at Parker Adventist Hospital, the Family to Family Support Network is going national in helping families create child-centered open adoptions from the very beginning, through adoption training in hospital labor and delivery wards.
is your hospital adoption competent?
Here is an interview with founder Rebecca Vahle on why she’s made it her mission* that more and more hospitals serve EVERYONE involved in a possible adoption situation more effectively.

Continue reading why this program is necessary for nurses, for adopting parents, for women and men in unplanned pregnancies, for babies, and for hospital administrators and stakeholders — and what you can do to bring it to your local hospital.

* I am so stoked about Family to Family’s mission that I have recently joined its board of directors.

baby born at adoption competent hospital