Birth parent

Because OSoloMama called me a Quaker

January 11, 2011

O Solo Mama says, I’m beginning to think of successful open adoptions as kind of like the Quakers—the word that came to me while I was drifting off to sleep. In the sense that Quakers are the people who acknowledge that keeping peace is neither simple nor easy but they do it anyway… Which I […]

What does “real” mean: adoption talk with my daughter

December 23, 2010

We were thrilled last summer to hear that my son’s birth mom had put us on her itinerary during her visit to Colorado.  Reed hadn’t had contact with her in nearly 4 years, and for the first time he would meet his half-siblings, ages 3 and 1. Reed showed no signs of either distress or […]

Guest post: Moses the Mouse

September 23, 2010

I’m traveling for work (and meeting Quiet Dreams!). Holding my place this week is guest poster* Melissa Nilsen, mom, birthmom and stay-at-home writer. Melissa blogs about open adoption and motherhood at BirthMomGuide. “I am a lucky birthmom. I live in the same state as my nine-year-old birthdaughter and her wonderful family. Her mother and I […]

Open Adoption Examiner Book Tour: LifeGivers

June 15, 2010

Today kicks off the second Open Adoption Examiner Book Tour. Six months ago we explored the adoptee perspective with The Primal Wound; now we examine the first parent view with James L. Gritter’s 2000 book, Life Givers. I’ll start by quoting myself from several years ago: When we first brought Tessa home, my grandma was […]