Birth parent

What does “real” mean: adoption talk with my daughter

December 23, 2010

We were thrilled last summer to hear that my son’s birth mom had put us on her itinerary during her visit to Colorado.  Reed hadn’t had contact with her in nearly 4 years, and for the first time he would meet his half-siblings, ages 3 and 1. Reed showed no signs of either distress or […]

Guest post: Moses the Mouse

September 23, 2010

I’m traveling for work (and meeting Quiet Dreams!). Holding my place this week is guest poster* Melissa Nilsen, mom, birthmom and stay-at-home writer. Melissa blogs about open adoption and motherhood at BirthMomGuide. “I am a lucky birthmom. I live in the same state as my nine-year-old birthdaughter and her wonderful family. Her mother and I […]

Open Adoption Examiner Book Tour: LifeGivers

June 15, 2010

Today kicks off the second Open Adoption Examiner Book Tour. Six months ago we explored the adoptee perspective with The Primal Wound; now we examine the first parent view with James L. Gritter’s 2000 book, Life Givers. I’ll start by quoting myself from several years ago: When we first brought Tessa home, my grandma was […]

And now there are four

May 12, 2010

Even though I’ve been a mom now for ten Mother’s Days, this most recent one brought a first as well as a completion. For the tenth year in a row, Tessa’s first mom called and we wished each other Happy Mother’s Day. For the third year in a row, Tessa’s first dad texted me Happy […]