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Perfect Moment Monday: Dross into gold

I should have been suspicious when the tent showed up on our front porch in May, shipped from Costco. Weeks later, the UPS guy dropped off several sleeping mats, also from Costco. What was this? Could it be that my husband was conniving to take our family on a camping trip?

Why would he do this to me, take me out of my natural habitat (indoors) and plop me into the wilds? Why would he do this to our kids, tear them away from their screens and electrical power? Why would he do this to himself — deal with all the whining and gnashing of teeth that was sure to ensue?

Not to mention the children’s.

Mid-month we rectified our family’s Nature Deficit Disorder and I got outside my comfort zone. We spent the weekend at a campground near Estes Park, CO. Was the weekend amazing, reminiscent of a Brady Bunch episode, a string of pearly perfect moments?

Mmmmmmmm…..no.

The weekend was fraught with tension, arguments, frustration, and even a little blood. We had delay after delay getting started on Friday afternoon and therefore got to the campground long after dusk, hungry and cranky. Finding our designated spot and setting up by moonlight was a challenge. Putting together a tent for the first time by flashlight was a challenge. And finding kindling in the dark was a challenge.  To cap things off, our mats didn’t fully inflate on first use, meaning we essentially slept on the cold hard ground on a night the temperature got down to 48 degrees.

The next day there were fatigue-induced spats about, well everything. But there was also swimming, eating ice cream in town, and each kid choosing a trip memento.

Said memento brought Reed much joy but was eventually the cause of the bloodletting. He’d chosen a small pocket knife and Roger showed him how to whittle, which he did happily much of the afternoon. Until his attention wandered for a moment and he sliced his thumb (turned out to be only a few layers deep). Big commotion.

It was exhausting. I wasn’t feeling very perfect moment-y for much of the weekend.

Yet there were some idyllic components.

Our site was delightful. (And not just because my husband got up early to build a fire, cook breakfast, and have coffee waiting.)

camping in Colorado

We had friendly neighbors.

deer at campground

Bambi and her kin frolicked all day right in front of us, replacing the Saturday cartoons and sports shows as our entertainment.

Tessa demonstrated her flair for fashion, even while roughing it. Not much chance of blending in had it become necessary to camouflage ourselves.

fahncy pahnts for cahmping

At 8000 feet, our view of the day sky was a clarified hue of blue.

mountain sky

Later that evening after we’d cooked and cleaned up and assembled s’mores, I realized we had been building our family narrative story by story. We sat in our camp chairs with faces aglow, bonded by shared anecdotes that we’ll tell through the ages, maybe to people who don’t even exist yet.

colorado camp fire

That expansive thought, which entered my mind as I saw the light flickering on my loved ones’ faces, ignited my perfect moment, turning all that other dross into gold.

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A happy moment, Lori, will seed ten thousand more.Notes from the Universe.

This was a message in my emailbox awhile back. And it explains why it’s in my interest (and yours) to notice perfect moments.

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Perfect Moment Monday is about noticing a perfect moment rather than creating one. Perfect moments can be momentous or ordinary or somewhere in between.

On the last Monday of each month we engage in mindfulness about something that is right with our world. Everyone is welcome to join.

To participate in Perfect Moment Monday:

  • Follow LavenderLuz.com.
  • Write up your own Perfect Moment and post it on your blog (or other site).
  • Use LinkyTools below to enter your name (or blog name), the URL of your Perfect Moment post, and a thumbnail image if desired.
  • Visit the Perfect Moments of others and let the writers know you were there with a comment.

With your Perfect Moment post , you may place this button on your blog (in the post, on the sidebar, or both).What Perfect Moment have you recently been aware of?


Perfect Moment Monday: Reed guest posts

Not to be left out, Reed asked to follow in the footsteps of his sister and today he makes his writing debut on this blog. As so often happens within loving relationships, one person’s perfect moment leads to another’s.

Reed says:

My perfect moment this month was when I was picking out a present for my mom in Keystone. I wanted to find a gift that she would love and would make her feel good — no, great! I thought to myself, I want something that says “Mom.”

Then I looked to left and there it was! Guess what? It said “Mom.” Literally.

I started asking — no, not asking but BEGGING my Grandma to get it and then finally she said YES!

When we get back to the lodge I turn on the TV to give Grandma and Grandpa a break while my parents worked at a conference. A couple hours later my mom walks in the door looking wiped out. I dash up to her and give her a hug. I have the box hidden in my hand and I reach up and say, Mom, something is coming out of your ear!

…and then I give her box with the necklace. I felt joy when I saw the expiration on her face because I knew she loved it. I felt great knowing she loved it.

She picked me up and held me tight. When she does that I call her Mommy and hold her tight right back.

It had been an emotional few days. The annual conference I’d run at the mountain resort for the last 7 years was always a grueling few days, but in addition this month I was dealing with the fact that it was my last time. My job would end when the conference ended.

I schlepped my tired self up the hill to enter our mountain condo and unslung the laptop from my shoulder. My parents were having snacks on the deck and the kids were watching some inane show with a too-loud soundtrack. Uncharacteristically, Reed jumped up from his divot on the couch, stopping when he got into my space.

“Bend down, Mom,” he commanded, also uncharacteristically.

I lowered myself for a perfunctory hug (this perfect moment sneaked up on me) and he got an impish look on his face. Instead of hugging my midsection, his arms aimed higher, near my head.

“Mom! You have something in your ear! What could it be? Oh, look!”

jewelry from my son

He beamed as he handed it to me.

My heart swelled as I opened it.

He jumped in to my arms and I had a huge moment of gratitude that I get to live with this boy’s generous, loving, playful heart. I squeezed him long and hard.

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A happy moment, Lori, will seed ten thousand more.Notes from the Universe.

This was a message in my emailbox a few weeks ago. And it explains why it’s in my interest (and yours) to notice perfect moments.

~~~~~

Perfect Moment Monday is about noticing a perfect moment rather than creating one. Perfect moments can be momentous or ordinary or somewhere in between.

On the last Monday of each month we engage in mindfulness about something that is right with our world. Everyone is welcome to join.

To participate in Perfect Moment Monday:

  • Follow LavenderLuz.com.
  • Write up your own Perfect Moment and post it on your blog (or other site).
  • Use LinkyTools below to enter your name (or blog name), the URL of your Perfect Moment post, and a thumbnail image if desired. (You can now put LinkyTools on your own Perfect Moment Monday post. Just click Get the Code Here and add the code to your own post. All the linkies will show up on your blog, too.)
  • Visit the Perfect Moments of others and let the writers know you were there with some comment currency.

With your Perfect Moment post , you may place this button on your blog (in the post, on the sidebar, or both).What Perfect Moment have you recently been aware of?

Perfect Moment Monday: Tessa guest posts

Tessa and I have collaborated on our joint Perfect Moment, which you’ll find below after a bit of a setup.

On a designated day each week, our Vino Support Group gets together, kids and all. Over the summer we moms take turns planning that afternoon’s activities. A hike, painting pottery, running through the town fountain — often followed by Happy Hour at the planner’s house.

One day this month, my friend Rose chose roller skating at a local rink. Tessa has long been graceful and speedy on her roller-blades around the neighborhood, so she was especially excited. I opted not to don skates, preferring to be the mom who stays with all the stuff and who watches the others go round and round while reminiscing about sitting on the sidelines during middle school.

Tessa and I had a special bonding moment toward the end of our skate session. I was curious what she thought of it, so I asked her to write her version. She recounts two stories, two perfect moments she had that day — and I even caught one of them on video.

Tessa says:

One crisp afternoon we were so happy to be able to go to the BEST place to be. That day it was Skate City. That is MY favorite place, but that is my opinion and my brother Reed would not agree with me.

There was music (Macklemore!) and games. There was food that my mom, Lori, would not let me eat (she calls it “crap” so whatever). Anyway I got my skates on and I started to dance and my mom was having fun watching me. That made me smile. We kept having so much fun going round and round. I have two funny stories to tell. Here is the first.

The workers at the rink offered us a game every 20 minutes. One was a race so I raced against my mom’s friend, Rose. I was winning as usual and as I got close to a cone I saw Rose right on my tail. For a second I was not looking where I was going and I fell forward on my hands. Rose was behind me and couldn’t stop from falling over me. I was laughing so hard she was worried I was crying but I was not.

We both got out of the rink and we were all OK.

So that was my first here is my second.

It was my last skate and I was having lots of fun. I’m laughing and I see my brother’s friend fall so I go over there but he is totally fine. I see my pretty mom over there. I go see her and right as I get there I hit the wall and I just drop, I’m not sure why.  It was funny and very unusual. I waited on the floor looking up for about 5 seconds and Mom comes rushing to see what happened. I see her head pop over the wall, all worried-looking. She tells me I’m fine and we started to laugh. For the rest of the afternoon we would then laugh and make jokes about that time when I fell.

That was my perfect moment Monday.

I saw Tessa go down just as she was heading toward me. She simply dropped as she approached the wall in front of me — very uncharacteristic of her. Worried, I peeked over, fearing what angle I would see her bones in. But she was just lying on the rink, smiling up at me. I laughed with relief and told her she was all right.

Tessa continued down the wall, falling in the same fashion every 20 feet or so. I followed her around the rink, poking my head over the wall, repeating our intimate and funny moment over and over again. It’s the tween version of drop-the-toy-and-mom-will-pick-it-up-over-and-over-again.

I could see how much this moment meant to her. Which means the wall-fall was meaningful to me, too. Later that night at Rose’s Happy Hour, Tessa and I would catch each others’ eye and smile our secret smile, remembering our bonding moment over the rink wall.

roller blades

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Perfect Moment Monday is about noticing a perfect moment rather than creating one. Perfect moments can be momentous or ordinary or somewhere in between.

On the last Monday of each month we engage in mindfulness about something that is right with our world. Everyone is welcome to join.

To participate in Perfect Moment Monday:

  • Follow LavenderLuz.com.
  • Write up your own Perfect Moment and post it on your blog (or other site).
  • Use LinkyTools below to enter your name (or blog name), the URL of your Perfect Moment post, and a thumbnail image if desired. (NEW: you can now put LinkyTools on your own Perfect Moment Monday post. Just click Get the Code Here and add the code to your own post. All the linkies will show up on your blog, too.)
  • Visit the Perfect Moments of others and let the writers know you were there with some comment currency.

With your Perfect Moment post , you may place this button on your blog (in the post, on the sidebar, or both).What Perfect Moment have you recently been aware of?

The next Perfect Moment Monday event will begin July 28.