Reunion in adoption

Reunion in Open Adoption 5: Things Fall Apart

March 6, 2009

It seemed like a good idea at the time. Joe (Tessa’s birthfather), who had been absent until she was 7, had fully integrated into our lives by the end of 2008. We had spent much of that year easing into a relationship with him. It culminated with visits in his home and visits in our […]

Reunion in open adoption 4: face-to-face

February 25, 2009

Awhile back I wrote about how I have become a face-gazer. I don’t know if this is unique to adoptive mamas, but since embarking on this family-building odyssey 8 years ago, I’ve become aware that I study faces. ====== It’s the end of the summer of 2008. Tessa is about to gaze on the face […]

Reunion in an open adoption 3: a different kind of wait

February 11, 2009

“The Wait” tends to mean something in adoption, something that hopeful adopting parents endure. But because of my lack of foresight, Tessa was the one who had to endure this 2-month wait. And it was not easy for her — and, consequently, for us. Previous posts leading up to this part of the story Part […]

Reunion in an open adoption part 2: Telling Tessa

February 3, 2009

Recap of Part 1: After a long email courtship, Roger and I met Tessa’s birthfather for the first time and decided to take the next step. Tessa would also meet him — in a few months after some planned events had passed. As we parted at the agency, Joe handed me some photos of him, […]