Category Archives: Tessa

The Day I Became a “Real” Mom

Remember my anticipation around the Mother’s Day-themed Listen To Your Mother Show two months ago? How ner-cited I was?

The video is now available! For those of you not able to attend the show, here’s “The Day I Earned My Mom Badge,” about the moment I knew I had become a “real” mom.

Who knew I could get so much mileage out of such a crappy experience?

I highly recommend you check out the clips of my fellow cast members who are also on the Denver playlist. I’ve heard each of them four times now and I’m still laughing and crying at these superb stories and storytellers.

Perfect Moment Monday: Tessa guest posts

Tessa and I have collaborated on our joint Perfect Moment, which you’ll find below after a bit of a setup.

On a designated day each week, our Vino Support Group gets together, kids and all. Over the summer we moms take turns planning that afternoon’s activities. A hike, painting pottery, running through the town fountain — often followed by Happy Hour at the planner’s house.

One day this month, my friend Rose chose roller skating at a local rink. Tessa has long been graceful and speedy on her roller-blades around the neighborhood, so she was especially excited. I opted not to don skates, preferring to be the mom who stays with all the stuff and who watches the others go round and round while reminiscing about sitting on the sidelines during middle school.

Tessa and I had a special bonding moment toward the end of our skate session. I was curious what she thought of it, so I asked her to write her version. She recounts two stories, two perfect moments she had that day — and I even caught one of them on video.

Tessa says:

One crisp afternoon we were so happy to be able to go to the BEST place to be. That day it was Skate City. That is MY favorite place, but that is my opinion and my brother Reed would not agree with me.

There was music (Macklemore!) and games. There was food that my mom, Lori, would not let me eat (she calls it “crap” so whatever). Anyway I got my skates on and I started to dance and my mom was having fun watching me. That made me smile. We kept having so much fun going round and round. I have two funny stories to tell. Here is the first.

The workers at the rink offered us a game every 20 minutes. One was a race so I raced against my mom’s friend, Rose. I was winning as usual and as I got close to a cone I saw Rose right on my tail. For a second I was not looking where I was going and I fell forward on my hands. Rose was behind me and couldn’t stop from falling over me. I was laughing so hard she was worried I was crying but I was not.

We both got out of the rink and we were all OK.

So that was my first here is my second.

It was my last skate and I was having lots of fun. I’m laughing and I see my brother’s friend fall so I go over there but he is totally fine. I see my pretty mom over there. I go see her and right as I get there I hit the wall and I just drop, I’m not sure why.  It was funny and very unusual. I waited on the floor looking up for about 5 seconds and Mom comes rushing to see what happened. I see her head pop over the wall, all worried-looking. She tells me I’m fine and we started to laugh. For the rest of the afternoon we would then laugh and make jokes about that time when I fell.

That was my perfect moment Monday.

I saw Tessa go down just as she was heading toward me. She simply dropped as she approached the wall in front of me — very uncharacteristic of her. Worried, I peeked over, fearing what angle I would see her bones in. But she was just lying on the rink, smiling up at me. I laughed with relief and told her she was all right.

Tessa continued down the wall, falling in the same fashion every 20 feet or so. I followed her around the rink, poking my head over the wall, repeating our intimate and funny moment over and over again. It’s the tween version of drop-the-toy-and-mom-will-pick-it-up-over-and-over-again.

I could see how much this moment meant to her. Which means the wall-fall was meaningful to me, too. Later that night at Rose’s Happy Hour, Tessa and I would catch each others’ eye and smile our secret smile, remembering our bonding moment over the rink wall.

roller blades

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Perfect Moment Monday is about noticing a perfect moment rather than creating one. Perfect moments can be momentous or ordinary or somewhere in between.

On the last Monday of each month we engage in mindfulness about something that is right with our world. Everyone is welcome to join.

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The next Perfect Moment Monday event will begin July 28.


Perfect Moment Monday: We are Young

Most days, as soon as the alarm goes off I pull on yoga pants (and shirt), wake the kids and get them ready for school. About the time they’re pledging their allegiance, I am setting up my laptop in my home office.

But once in awhile, I actually go to work and must begin the day the way I used to: I shower, pick something out of my closet that is on a hanger, and do my hair and makeup. I had one of these days in November, and instead of guiding my children through each step of their prep, I focused on mine.

Would my kids rise to the occasion?

I made sure Tessa and Reed were awake before I stepped into the shower. Would you believe that not once did they storm through the door and complain that one was breathing on the other? Would you believe that after I dried myself off and crept into the hallway to see what was going on in the kitchen, that I saw Tessa rinsing Reed’s cereal bowl and loading it into the dishwasher? That I saw Reed making a lunch for Tessa? That they were collaborating with each other rather than tormenting each other?

I was in shock. And I broke out into a huge smile.

Tessa and Reed had a soundtrack for the morning blaring from one or the other’s iPod, perched in the kitchen docking station an causing them to rock out. At the moment I peered down on them, “We Are Young” by fun. was playing. It’s a song we all love to sing together in the car, but in this scenario it held new meaning.

We are young!
So let’s set the world on fire
We can burn brighter
Than the sun!

(Not the get-drunk-til-you-can’t-get-yourself-home meaning that the video portrays.)

Ladies and gentlemen, I saw with my own eyes that I am raising independent, cooperative and compassionate human beings. Who so totally rock.

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Perfect Moment Monday is about noticing a perfect moment rather than creating one. Perfect moments can be momentous or ordinary or somewhere in between.

On the last Monday of each month we engage in mindfulness about something that is right with our world. Everyone is welcome to join.

To participate in Perfect Moment Monday:

  • Follow Write Mind Open Heart.
  • Write up your own Perfect Moment and post it on your blog (or other site).
  • Use LinkyTools below to enter your name (or blog name), the URL of your Perfect Moment post, and a thumbnail image if desired.
  • Visit the Perfect Moments of others and let the writers know you were there with some comment currency.

Once you make a Perfect Moment post , you may place this button on your blog.What Perfect Moment have you recently been aware of? Visit these moments of others and share your comment love.

The next Perfect Moment Monday event will begin December 31.

(Cross-posted on BlogHer.)