The Happy/Sad of Adoption

Last week I witnessed a private interaction that needs to be seen by a wider audience, for it addresses the fallacy that if adoptees are happy and connected to their (adoptive) parents, it follows that they will not have any adoption issues. Can there be a “Happy/Sad” of adoption?

At the request of the question asker and with the permission of the question answerer, I share their exchange here.

Question (from an adoptee): Can you see the distinction between how an adoptee feels about their own adoption and how adoption is practiced now? Can you explain in words others can hear that an adopted person who had a “good experience” can actually have serious concerns about adoption today and speak out about it?

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Bad Dream

I woke up the other morning in the middle of a bad dream. I’d been dreaming that someone had not only pulled my dog’s tail, but had pulled it OFF.

bichon poodle mix

In my pre-dawn dream world, my poor Dexter, proud wagger of a lush and expressive plume, would forever have to live with this amputation. And so would I.

The closest interpretation I can find of my bad dream is this:

“To dream of an animal’s tail represents obstacles and aggravation in situations where peace was anticipated.”

Well, I DID spend time on Facebook. I’m open to other guesses you may have what this dream may mean.

I had trouble shaking the feeling of anger and fear I woke up with. I remained in a grumpy mood all day. #firstworldproblem

Do you remember your dreams? Which ones stay with you more — good dreams or bad dreams? Do you try to find meaning in the ones that stay with you?


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I Went to Orlando for Adoption, Not Disney

Last week I set out from Denver to head to Orlando for a conference about adoption laws and practices.

Denver International Airport blue horse
A poster of”Blucifer,” our airport’s public art, which spooks visitors on their way into and out of the airport terminal.

I got to stay in in a Doubletree Hotel Resort for a couple of days. The grounds were beautiful. Continue reading I Went to Orlando for Adoption, Not Disney

Inquiring Minds Want to Know

Last week I planted two earworms, both with notoriously long endings. I challenged you to estimate which song had more Na Nas, and by a little or a lot.

Our Contestants

The Factors

In one corner, the Hey Jude outro times in at 3:50, a definite advantage . However, as Jess pointed out, much of that time is taken up not only by Na Nas, but also by Hey Judes.

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