Springtime in the Rockies

It’s been a particularly gorgeous spring here in the foothills of the Rocky Mountains. We’ve had milder temperatures and more moisture than in previous years.

Dexter and I walk almost every day. Here are some of photos I’ve taken #onmywalk over the last nine weeks. With a bonus pic of Dex on the deck.

 

Cheery, oh! #daffodils #flowers #onmywalk #spring

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From last week’s snow. #onmywalk #flowers #tulips #grapehyacinth #snow #cowx #latergram

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Four Sisters #onmywalk #trees #treeporn #blossoms #spring #spring time #springtimeinther oldies #flowers #denverado

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More Mucked Up Adoption Advice from Dear Abby

Dear Abby,

I wonder if you might consider outsourcing responses to questions you get about adoption. It’s evident from your previous misguided advice that you are sometimes out of your element adoption-wise. Let me get readers up to speed on this latest request for adoption advice.

Dear Abby adoption questions

Dear Abby: Should We Let Birth Grandparents In?

Uncertain Down South said that she and her husband met their daughter’s birth parents briefly in the hospital at the time of her birth, but the birth parents wanted no further contact. Continue reading More Mucked Up Adoption Advice from Dear Abby

I Want My Kids to Struggle

That sounds really mean, doesn’t it? Hear me out as I make that case that sometimes you gotta be cruel to be kind.

“Children Are Anti-Fragile”

In a broader discussion of what he calls the vindictive attack culture on college campuses,  Dr. Jonathan Haidt, a psychologist and professor of business ethics at New York University’s Stern School of Business, says:

A carton of eggs is fragile, if you bang it around it breaks. But bone is anti-fragile. If you bang it around it gets stronger, and if you don’t bang it around it gets weaker. Children are anti-fragile. They have to have many, many experiences of failure, fear, and being challenged. Then they have to figure out ways to get themselves through it. [bold added by me]

I’ve been thinking about this in terms of parenting, adoptive parenting and modern culture. children are anti-fragile

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