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I Went to Orlando for Adoption, Not Disney

Last week I set out from Denver to head to Orlando for a conference about adoption laws and practices.

Denver International Airport blue horse
A poster of”Blucifer,” our airport’s public art, which spooks visitors on their way into and out of the airport terminal.

I got to stay in in a Doubletree Hotel Resort for a couple of days. The grounds were beautiful. Continue reading I Went to Orlando for Adoption, Not Disney

Meet me at the library

Calling all front-range adoptive families, birth families, adoption professionals, people considering adoption or donor gametes as a means of family-building, and people who have adopted internationally, through foster care and domestically.

Join me in kicking off National Adoption Awareness month by coming to the Denver Public Library Schlessman Branch ( this Sunday, November 3, at 2 pm for an hour-long workshop called “Don’t Split the Baby!” Thanks to the generous sponsorship of my publisher, Rowman & Littlefield, this workshop is free to the public.

And? Bye week for the Broncos, so I know you are already free that afternoon.

Denver Public Library hosts author Lori Holden(click image to visit Denver Public Library announcement and to get location details)

Our agenda includes the following:

agenda for workshop on openness in adoptionThis workshop will be helpful to those who are considering adoption as a way to build a family and for people who are currently navigating adoptive parenting, as well as those who work in the field of adoption. Birth parents and other birth family members are also welcome.

Review of Lori Holden's adoption workshop(click image to visit an attendee’s tweet-review of the San Francisco workshop)

I can also direct you to an insightful joint review of the book on which this workshop is based by Lisa and Liz, an adoptive mom and a birth mom to the same daughter: “We were excited to read a book addressed to both of us, and found many insights which resonated with our own experiences. We highly recommend this book.” Lisa and Liz attended the workshop in Portland.

Someone has asked if children are welcome at the library workshop.  Please feel free to bring younger children if childcare is an issue — babies, toddlers, preschoolers. But I suspect that some of what we’ll cover may be triggering to kids who have begun to understand what adoption means to them, that it often starts with and involves loss.

No registration is necessary, but it would be nice to have some idea of a count so I can be sure to bring enough handouts. Just email me to let me know you plan to attend.

Your help spreading the word to any Denver-area connections is appreciated. I look forward to seeing you on Sunday!

Perfect Moment Monday: Grape Company

I drank wine this month.

Which is not news. I tend to have a glass of wine each evening. It’s as much a treasured daily ritual as my morning cup of coffee is.

holding a glass of wineThe news is who I drank wine with (or maybe the shorter list would be who I didn’t drink wine with). In October, I got to drink wine with far-flung friends in Seattle, Portland, Eugene, San Francisco, and right here at home.

I was a girl who struggled with friendships back when I was my daughter’s age. I was shy, bookish, and I played in the band (not a cool kind of band but a 5th grade concert band — think Target commercial cacophony). I liked getting grounded on the rare occasions I misbehaved because it meant that instead of playing outside with other kids, I could be inside reading the “L” edition of the World Book encyclopedia (it was a relatively skinny one, unlike the massive “M”).

But you know that line from The Sound of Music, in which Maria and the Captain sing to each other in the gazebo? They mention their wicked, miserable pasts but conclude that

Somewhere in my youth or childhood | I must have done something good.

Somehow in the intervening years I have become rich in friends. I mean really, really great people kinda friends. Folks who are good-hearted, smart as whips, and generous in so many ways.

Close friends contribute to our personal growth. They also contribute to our personal pleasure, making the music sound sweeter, the wine taste richer, the laughter ring louder because they are there. — Judith Viorst

Monika,* Heather* and Lucy* opened their homes (and beverages) to me during my Pacific Northwest speaking tour early in the month. Esperanza, Jessica and Luna* shared the grape with me in the San Francisco area when I spoke at Adoption Connection mid-month. I also got to see (and toast) my cousins Debora and Marjan along the way.

After my trips I got to enjoy camaraderie and Cabernet with my hometown Vino Support Group.*

So each time I toasted and sipped with friends here and there, friends near and far, I counted my blessings. My cup — and my heart — runneth over.

(Metaphorically speaking. Don’t wanna waste good wine by actually spilling.)

* A Carol Burnett-type tug on the ear aimed at Nick, Todd & Eddie-Mari-Trey, Al, Mac & J-Z, and Maggie.

Throwing in a few of images of this month’s perfect moments.

BestLight's October 2013 speaking tour album on Photobucket


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Adoption Workshop in Denver

I’ve been invited by the Family-to-Family Adoption Support Program at Parker Adventist Hospital to lead a workshop on openness in adoption.

It just occurred to me that I should mention that here. I’ve been so focused on putting together the session that I just remembered to give notice to Denver-area readers.

The workshop is tomorrow evening, Friday, September 20, 7 -8:30 pm. Family-to-Family says:

Lori Holden, author of The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow Up Whole. Hear Lori’s perspective on Open Adoption and how all of us can help our kids grow up whole, regardless of how they came to our families.

I can fill you in further about our itinerary.

agenda for workshop on openness in adoption

This workshop will be helpful to those who are considering adoption as a way to build a family and for people who are currently navigating adoptive parenting, as well as those who work in the field of adoption.  Birth parents and other birth family members are also welcome.

To register, call Ask-A-Nurse TODAY at 303-777-6877

Cost: $15/couple or $7.50/person
Parker Adventist’s Conference Center, 9395 Crown Crest Blvd in Parker

If you can’t attend this event, I’m speaking again at the Denver Library Schlessman branch on Sunday, November 3 at 2 pm.

I am out-of-my-skin excited to begin teaching what many of you have taught me about why and how to stay open-hearted in our adoptions.

NOTE: Your help spreading the word today to any Denver-area connections is appreciated!