tough conversations

An open response to anti-open adoption sentiments, part 2

April 12, 2011

Posters on a private board for adoptive parents discussed their reasons for being against open adoption. In part 1 and here, I share my responses to them (background). ~~~~~~ Coercion I don’t understand how you believe that agencies coerce pre-adoptive parents into openness. Just because you don’t like the options available to you doesn’t mean [...]

Why I am anti anti-open adoption: a public response to private statements

April 5, 2011

Private bulletin boards certainly serve a purpose. A private board can be a safe place for people to connect and explore sensitive issues more deeply than where the whole world could see. I’m in full support of that. A private board can also be a place to vent, and I’m also in support of that. [...]

Do over: “I’m a bastard, right, Mom?”

March 24, 2011

As you may recall from my last post, Tessa and I began a conversation about the meaning of the words bitch and bastard. We covered the terms and I was feeling confident. Until she said the words expressed in the title of this post. That means I’m a bastard, right? Though it was clear there was [...]

Adoption: a tough question from my daughter

March 22, 2011

I’m interested in what parents and non-parents have to say and particularly what helpful advice adoptees may have to offer. What would/did you do? The conversation started when Tessa, 9, asked me (again) what bitch means and if it’s a bad word. We’ve had this talk before. I told her (again) that the dictionary meaning is [...]

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