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A Quickie

Not a full post, just two alerts — one an invitation and the other an announcement:

Lori Holden's book on open adoption1. Melissa at Stirrup Queens is graciously hosting a virtual book club tour of my book today. It feels a bit voyeuristic to listen in on conversations about my creation, but I’m enjoying myself immensely as I hop around to the blogs of the participants. The questions the participants asked each other are thoughtful and their responses are equally canny.

You are invited to read along, as well, and listen to what people are saying. (I’ll delurk and comment soon, and I’ll answer participant questions in a future post).

BIG thanks to Melissa.

2. This just in: The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow Up Whole is now available on Kindle.

Favor: The book’s first wave is doing well, thanks to so many of you. As it ripples outward, one of my goals is for the book to find its way to adoption agencies so they have a resource for how to “do” openness. As we know, for years, adoption professionals have been telling their clients, both adopting and expecting, why to do open adoption without necessarily providing the resources for how. Now they have an easy and inexpensive way to support and empower parents on their lifelong journey.

If you are in a position to alert an agency/facilitator/attorney to this book, I would be grateful for you to do so.

BIG thanks to you.

Take cover

I’m not sure how cover creation works for other publishers or for self-publishers, but I can share with you my process.

At the beginning of our partnership, my publisher asked me to fill out a questionnaire about the cover and turn it in with the completed manuscript. Were there images that would be appropriate? I suggested anything that symbolizes union: the Tao symbol (my Twitter avatar), joined hands, joined hearts, puzzle pieces coming together, and rainbow colors for promises kept. I didn’t know how the publisher would build a cover with that input.

[I really like the image on Jim Gritter’s book, Hospitious Adoption, as well as the content in it (wow! currently selling on Amazon for $900!). But Jim got it first.

Hospitious Adoption by Jim Gritter

Still, for my own book I had nothing definitive in my mind, no clear vision of what the book should look like. I am much more facile thinking in words than in pictures, so I’m glad I had access to the publisher’s expertise in this part of book production.

The questionnaire also asked if there were any images that should be avoided.  I nixed babies. This book isn’t about parenting just babies. And I don’t want it to attract only people who are at the very beginning of their adoption journey. It really should have wider appeal — it’s also for parents of toddlers, gradeschoolers, tweens and teens. It’s got messages for birth families as well as adoptive families. And there’s a chapter for why and how to have openness in foster situations,  international adoptions and parenting by donor gametes — even in cases in which “openness” doesn’t mean actual contact.

I sent the questionnaire along with the manuscript at the end of the summer. And waited for the publisher to work its magic.

Two weeks ago the publisher sent me five options. Four of them had templates based on squares and were very grid-ish. But one was more orb-ish in flavor. In my mind, circles portray wholeness and integration better than do squares. So my gut feeling on choosing The One was clear and instantaneous.

And so — we now have a cover for the book.

Voilá!

Lori Holden's book cover

If you like it, tell me. If you don’t, there’s nothing I can do — so instead tell me who is your favorite political theorist of the European Age of Enlightenment and why.

Without Googling.*

* generic term for all Internet searches.