Time Warp Tuesday: Revisiting the Petri dish

I’m excited to be part of the inaugural outing of Time Warp Tuesday hosted by Four of a Kind, in which we bring back a post from our past and look at it anew.

Our prompt this time is Waiting. I’m stretching the meaning a bit to mean waiting for the wheels of justice to turn, as they have just this week completedtheir cycle in one notorious case.

I’m going with recent history. In 2008 I wrote a post about the FLDS sect (Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints) when its practices came into public scrutiny due to a raid on its compound. I was wondering what it was like for those FLDS women, who seemed scarily Stepford-ish. Brainwashed, clearly.

But then I began wondering how much of a difference there really was between those women and me. And maybe even you.

This week, the sect’s leader, Warren Jeffs, was sentenced to life plus 20 years in prison for se.x.ually as.sault.ing children. So I thought my post from 3½  years ago was a good one to trot out.

You can find the post here, in which I examined the Petri dishes of culture every human lives in. Time Warp Tuesday asks, “Has your perspective changed?” Mine has not. I selected this post because I think it’s wise, when I’m feeling judgmental, for me to seek the ways I exhibit the thing I’m being judgmental about.

Please visit Time Warp Tuesdays for more on this week’s topic of Waiting.

Perfect Moment Monday: My StarCon experience

Now I know how Trekkies feel. Not during their “real” lives, but while at StarCon.

I got to spend the weekend with one of my clans. A bunch of mostly strangers with a common experience and passion and language and pointy ears. Well, maybe not that last one, but a bunch of people who really want to make Adoption World better.

About 120 people converged at the University of Richmond School of Law for the 2011 Opening Adoption Symposium, hosted by Coordinators2, which did a fantastic job. There was a sub-clan of attendees who are also bloggers — people I have stalked and learned from online for years. Sharing with these women our passion for adoption blogging was exhilarating.

Whether it was riding in a cab with KatjaMichelle, clinking sangria glasses with 24/7 Social Worker, LisaRacilous and Cynthia (who conceived the conference) presenting my sessions with Judy and Amy, hanging out with Heather and her fly-for-a-white-guy husband, or waiting for the first leg of our flight with Dawn Friedman, it was an amazing thing to meet and get to know each other in person over our common interest.

Topping off the conference were the wise  words and ideas of keynoter Jim Gritter, author of the newly released book Hospitious Adoption. Here’s my twitter stream of my favorite of his quotes. The middle one is my favorite.

As the conference ended a dear friend drove from her home to meet me and have an old-fashioned slumber party, a grown-up version that involved Kahlua and talking/crying/giggling until the wee hours. I considered leaving my underwear in her bag but thought better of it.

The capstone of my days-long succession of perfect moments happened during  the drive home from the airport when I was blasted with bliss. The 80-degree air smelled like home and was a gift to this summer-loving gal. I drove west toward the mountains, and the mountain panorama against the blue sky took my breath away. This coincided with Greenday’s Good Riddance on the radio and anticipation about seeing the faces of my husband and kids.

Love those bliss blasts. They come outta nowhere.


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Survey SAYS

Thanks to all of you for participating the survey questions I posed last month about blogging. There were a few things revealed that I didn’t expect — one being that respondents (n=100) came from 11 countries on 5 continents.

What?? No Antarctica?

I asked a non-representative sample of bloggers (we all know this community is a cut above) questions regarding:

  • the relationship between the amount of time and energy you put into the post and the amount of attention it generates
  • whether you are a net giver or receiver of comments
  • the tendency for bloggers to have kept a diary or journal
  • which comes first, the title or the post?

So what did we learn?

1. Relationship between time and energy into creating a post and the response to that post:

  • 26% reported a direct relationship (more effort = more response).
  • 58% of you say there’s no relationship between the energy you put into a post and the response it garners.
  • 16% reported an inverse relationship (more effort = less response and vice versa).

One respondent said: Sometimes posts that I took enormous pains over sank without trace. Sometimes posts I dashed off (usually in a temper) garnered dozens of comments. And sometimes, vice versa. I still don’t quite understand it.

And this comment is quite insightful: It seems to be more the amount of EMOTION and energy, rather than time and energy.

Bottom line for a 84% of us? Don’t try so hard!

2. Comments, giving and getting:

  • 19% of you lament that you give waaay more than you get
  • 34% say you give more than you get, but that it’s not outrageously out of balance
  • 27% consider yourselves even-steven
  • 15% of you confess you get more than you give, but that it’s not terribly imbalanced
  • 5% of you admit you get waaay more than you give

So more than half of you are net givers but only 20% of you are net getters. Hmmmmm…..

This comment both helps to explain the anomaly and to dismiss it: My blog is quite small, and the number of blogs I follow is larger, so I think at times I definitely give more comments than I get, but hey, who’s counting?

Suggestion: Check out the monthly ICLW for an organized commentathon.

3. Journaling as a precursor to blogging:

  • 77% say you had never faithfully journaled or kept a diary prior to blogging
  • 23% say you considered yourselves a journaler or diarist before embarking on your blogs.

This result surprised me. Not that more people didn’t journal, but that so MANY more people didn’t journal.  When I asked this same question back in 2008, the results were statistically even.

Because of my own experience, I thought there would be a stronger tie between a childhood habit of keeping a diary and an adult habit of writing a blog. Color me oddball.

Representative comments: I only journaled during certain periods of my life. Usually when things were more stressful and I had a lot to deal with.      And      I never maintained a diary or journal even though I set out to multiple times throughout my life.

4. Which comes first: title or post?

  • Only 5% of you say the title comes first
  • 36% of you write the post first and then title it
  • And 59% say it’s 50-50; sometimes it’s the title first and sometimes it’s the post

Among the 5%: It’s the blank at the top. Therefore, I fill it in first.   And   Some titles are too delicious to waste.

Among the 36%: The title is the hardest thing for me to write.

Among the majority: Sometimes the title is in my head first or becomes clear as I’m writing; other times the title I had in mind doesn’t fit when I’m done. Sometimes I can’t ever think of what to title something.

Any surprises in the findings for you? In which questions might you be somewhat freakish in the minority?

Image: Salvatore Vuono / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

A post for Denver locals: two upcoming events

I’ve got two opportunities to tell you Denver-area people about — and those of you who have Lear Jets and privileges at metro-Denver airports.


First, Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey® is coming to town. This year’s show is called Fully Charged and promises an “all-new surge of circus entertainment where megawatts of thrills explode off of the arena floor with breathtaking dare-devilry, superhuman stunts and never-before-seen performances that energize Children of All Ages!

The Circus it in town from September 29 through October 9. See DenverParent.net for a schedule.

DenverParent.net has a 4-ticket giveaway for the September 29 show at 7 pm. Head over to enter — currently your chances are good.

If interested you can read what Ringling Brothers says it does for Elephant preservation.

Rattlesnake (and other more conventional Brazilian foods)

Please join me on Monday, September 26 at Rodizio Grill in LoDo from 7-9 pm for a special deal. $19.99 gets you a special 4-course meal to celebrate Rodizio’s Wild Game Fest’s opening night (the meal is regularly $32.99 without dessert). Wild Game Fest features exotic meats including Rattlesnake Sausage, Kurobuta (Japanese Wild Hog), wild rice and Yak (Himalayan Beef) in addition to Rodizio’s regular delicious menu items (including vegetarian options).

You get to eat in the private dining room with a bunch of bloggers, although I’m not sure how much of a selling point that is  — we may just put the Wild in Wild Game Fest. Or at least the Fest. Who knows who else you might see there?

It’s a Tweetup. If you’re on Twitter, please use the hashtag #RodizioTweetUp and @RodizioGrill on behalf of our host. If you’re not on Twitter and you think I switched to a foreign language in this paragraph, no worries. Just show up hungry and let me tweet a quote from you.

To take advantage of this fantastic price, you simply need to mention either this blog, Write Mind Open Heart or LavLuz, my Twitter handle. Never before have my monikers opened such meaty doors (and probably never will again).

I’ve long loved Brazilian food, and I’m not saying that just because of the accompanying caipirinhas. I’m not sure I’ll actually nibble on the rattlesnake, but the yak is a possibility. I hope to see you there. Will you try the rattlesnake?

Bom apetite!


I am a Feld Family Activator, and in exchange for my time and efforts in attending a show and keeping you advised of the latest offers, Feld Entertainment has provided me with compliemntary tickets to the show and the opportunity to attend a private Feld pre-Show event.

I, along with other bloggers, will be a guest of Rodizio Grill that night.