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Time Warp Tuesday: Fathering

It’s time forTime Warp Tuesday, the monthly blog hop offered by Kathy at Bereaved and Blessed. This week’s theme is Fathering, and our assignment is to use an old post to:

Reflect on the roles that the fathers in our lives have played.

I have a fantastic dad. A quirky dad, a wise dad, a loving dad, a present dad — all this rolled up into my Dad. Four years ago I wrote an homage to him — using his own words. You see, my dad is a repeatist. He says the same things over and over and over and over and over again — good thing they are good things! I shared with the world some of the Dad-isms that my sisters and I grew up with. Here are  three that have started to fall out of my own mouth lately:

  • Sometimes you COUNT the votes and sometimes you WEIGH them.
  • Everyone is not doing it because YOU are not!
  • Leave things better than you find them.

Click over for more Dad-isms.

I loved this post when I wrote it and I love it today because I love my Dad. He is quite possibly the most honest and moral person I know (along with my mom). Always he does what is right, never what is merely expedient. Come to think of it, that was a Dad-ism, too.

His groundedness is matched by his reach and wit. He modeled for us to believe in ourselves and aim high. There is always a sense of levity with my dad — that is, unless my mom is trying to get him out the door on time (I know I have time to do just one more thing!).

Now I get to see him with my kids. It’s like seeing your dad as your dad but instead of having little kid eyes you have grown up eyes (and no need to argue about curfew). I have a new appreciation for Dad’s willingness to be there with his progeny, his ability to connect, and his desire to leave the world a better place than it was before he got here — through his own actions and through the people he influences.

I am — and have always been — one lucky daughter.

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8 Responses

  1. “Now I get to see him with my kids. It’s like seeing your dad as your dad but instead of having little kid eyes you have grown up eyes (and no need to argue about curfew). I have a new appreciation for Dad’s willingness to be there with his progeny, his ability to connect, and his desire to leave the world a better place than it was before he got here — through his own actions and through the people he influences.”

    What an awesome observation/reflection about your dad!

    Between this tribute to your dad and Kristin’s to her husband, Time Warp Tuesday this month is getting me all choked up…

    I LOVE your Dad-isms! I commented on your old post which were my favorites, so I won’t repeat them here, but I can tell what a wise man he is and how grateful you are to be his daughter.

    I also appreciate the perspective you have now as an adult child. It really does help us to see our parents in a very different way when we are facing many of the same struggles and experiencing so much joy, as they did when raising us.

    Thank you so much for doing the Time Warp again with us this month! I always enjoy when you participate and have especially liked reading your Mothering and Fathering tributes to your parents last month and today.

  2. I love this post. I love the part about seeing your dad with your kids and seeing what he is like in that role, but now you are an adult and can really appreciate it. I do that with my dad too, except I think he’s a better dad now, the years have made him more gentle and extended unemployment has made him more humble and grateful and he is really amazing to be around, especially when he’s with my daughter, who just adores him with every fiber of her being. I am very lucky to live near my dad and see him quite frequently.

    Great post. Thanks for sharing your amazing father with us.

  3. I love the dad-isms, too. It’s funny … I’ve been trying to re-create some for my son, from my own father. He was full of Spanish aphorisms. 🙂 Thanks for this!

  4. Love it-  I should add my dad’s in here but most of them are not so pleasant.  Ha!  I feel blessed to have him this Father’s Day after what happened.  Great post and fun to read your dad’s isms 🙂 ha

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