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One-Woman Show

To find one of my evergreenest posts, you’d have to go back 6½ years, back to my early days of blogging in 2007. You’d think that said post would have to do with open adoption or chakras or Perfect Moment Mondays, or something that I’m known for writing about.

But you’d be wrong. What Google sends to me most aren’t people searching for “what causes adoption” or “which chakra is for sex” or “my husband’s panties” or “today show experts” or “% of marriages that end in divorce” (though all of these are in the running) — but this one:

you must pay the rent

Nearly 7 years later, I have added a short video to that very popular post. Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you Lori Lavender Luz starring in her 30-second one-woman, one-act, one-prop play!

I’ve spent years resolving my own victim tendencies (“the world is against me — look at all the proof I have”), as you can see from my latest post. The other two roles not so much.

So I ask you:

Is there a dramatic role you tend to play in your life — victim, hero, villain?

11 Responses

  1. I am generally the audience. I observe, listen, and respond.

    Nice performance…are you going to play that for an ice-breaker on your children’s prom nights? 🙂

  2. And (so swept away was I by the performance and previous post that I didn’t answer your question): I play the victim for myself, but also the villain. The hero for others, as much as I can. I LIVE on heroism. Probably because I’m NOT a hero to myself.

  3. I see why this is such a popular post. I think your comparison of the adoption triad members to the three roles in “you must pay the rent” is brilliant! Hero, villain, victim are all positions we can all too easily slip into as participants in adoption. Righteous I suppose is a quality that any of those characters can assume as well, foreclosing on complication, understanding and, as you point out again and again, open-heartedness. Thank you for the reminder not to wallow!

  4. I came out of hiding and just HAD to share my little giggle on this one!!!! Nice work!!!!

    To dig deeper now, interesting enough I just had a conversation yesterday with a girlfriend as to what my ‘role’ seems to be with our OA. Or what I’ve let it be…’hero’. With recent geographically separation now between us, I am finding relief in NOT being that role anymore and am reflecting as to why I let myself be in it. So hard when there are other children involved in the ‘triad’. That’s my ‘weakness’ for sure.

    A work in progress indeed…

    In the mean time, the oscars are coming soon…I”ll be sure to slip in your nomination for best ‘short’ film.

    😉

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