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Open Adoption Advice for Hairy Situations

Open Adoption is HARD (but worth it)

So many parents I’ve talked with are committed to open adoption because they understand how it can help them and their children move from an Either/Or mindset to a Both/And heartset.  As a consequence, they open to contact with birth parents and all the complexity that contact brings.

Regular old parenting can get tough, but add in an open adoption component and things can get really hairy. No parenting guide can give all the answers, but once you know how to set your “parenting GPS,” you’ll know how to find your answers.

Have you faced any of these sticky open adoption situations?

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7 things a birth mom would do differently in open adoption7 Things I Wish We’d Done Differently in Our Open Adoption


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Dear Abby adoption questionsDear Abby is Wrong About Adoption & Birth Grandparents


adoption privacy vs secrecyI’m Excited to Tell Our Adoption Story, But I Don’t Wanna Violate My Child’s Privacy


adoption the child is mineMy Child is ONLY Mine. I Can’t Bear to Think Otherwise. This Sucks!


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are you prickly in your open adoption relationshipsBoundaries: We’ve Been Warned by Our Agency to Be Super Cautious


who owns the adoption storyDo I Have to Tell My Child He’s Adopted?



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adoptee rejected by birth motherHow to Handle Birth Mother Rejection



passive aggressive relationshipMy Son’s Birth Mom is Being Passive Aggressive. Help!


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aq adoption attuned parentingMy Kids Has No Adoption Issues. Is That an Issue?



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why do people lie?What Do I Do When Birth Mom Lies to My Face?



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How Can We Open Up When We’re Prickly from Being Hurt?


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when what I knew was wrongHow to Nudge a Closed Person Toward Openness



When the Birth Father Says He Isn’t the Birth Father


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adoption q & aHow to Explain Why One Child’s Birth Mother is Around and the Other’s Isn’t


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adoption profile mistakesWhat Mistakes Should I Avoid in My Adoption Profile?


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Advice on Open Adoption

The Open Adoption Advice column  launched in the spring of 2015. As I prepared for and delivered a series of webinars, I realized there was a hunger for not only general knowledge about orienting on the child, but also situation-specific information on dealing with common issues in open adoption: The profile. The Wait. Boundaries. Levels of openness. How to tell the child his story. Healing from wounds. Staying open even when it’s hard. And so on.

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