Gosh, is it scary to talk about anything race related. But I’m going to zoom out and talk first about things that are power imbalance related, using adoption, political theory, and the enlightened self-interest of sharing cake.
Power Shifts in Jim Gritter’s Hosting & Guesting Model
Jim Gritter, a pioneering social worker for open adoption, suggests in Hospitious Adoption (if you can’t find it to buy, try your library) that people in adoption relationships should take cues from the hospitality industry. Think about what makes a good guest. Think about what makes a good host. And then when you find yourself in one of those roles, take on the mindset of a good guest or a good host. (I submit this means to be able to imagine yourself in the place of the other and to then follow the Golden Rule.)
What if any time you are anti-something — even something that is abhorrent to you — you add to the collective battle energy of humanity?
What if every time you unfriend someone for holding beliefs you cannot tolerate — even beliefs of intolerance — that act adds to the battle energy we collectively generate?
What if every time you declare somebody an idiot for espousing their views, humanity’s battle energy level rises just a bit?
What if, like in Horton Hears a Who, even your teensy-weensy little part matters?
What if generating peace energy within yourself and your sphere were the key to shifting the collective energy of humanity from the vibration of battle to the vibration of peace?
