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So Many Emotions About My Son’s Adoption Reunion

Letter Writer: I  came across your post “He Wants to Live with His Birth Mother. Now what?”  — because I’m living it.

I am an adoptive mother of three.  My son, now 23 , graduated from college this past May.  Throughout his upbringing his father and I would talk about adoption from time to time and always told him (and the other kids, too) if they ever wanted to search for their birth parents we encourage and support and will help in anyway possible.

None of our kids ever took an interest, until earlier this year when my son was in his senior year of college. It seemed from out of nowhere, but all of a sudden he wanted to reach out to his birth mother.  I knew her last name and the state she last lived in. With that information, voilà,  he found her on Facebook.

My son met with a counselor who specialized in adoption search and reunion and we met with them to navigate the process.  My son asked for my help, asked if I could message her  through Facebook.  At first I was hesitant but after composing what I thought was a thoughtful , acceptable letter, the message was sent.

That was February of 2016.  We held our breath. Will she open the message, will she be open to corresponding, will she reject him? What will happen???

Fast forward a few months. We flew her and her entire family to his college town to attend his graduation this spring. They stayed for a week. Four weeks later my son decided to move to another state and live with them.

So this has been a whirlwind. It has been such an array of emotions. I am so grateful his biological family accepted him and immediately loved him and were open and kind and appreciative towards us.

On my bad days I feel like….. what. just. happened.

mixed emotions of adoption reunion

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Perfect Moment Monday: For No Reason

A few weeks ago my mom gave me a just because gift. It wasn’t my birthday or Christmas or any other present-giving occasion. It was just that my mom was at a store and a ring (on sale at one of those stores at which, if you ever pay full price for anything, you are just not paying attention) called out to her saying, “Give me to Lori.”

yin yang ring

She did and I’ve been wearing it to yoga class ever since — my new yin yang ring (which is quite fun to say over and over. Try it.)

Whenever I look at my hand from downward dog, I think of how much my mommy loves me and knows me and loves to do little (and big) things that make me happy. I feel perfectly loved.

tao ring


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On luck

Just in time for St Patrick’s Day, we’re revisiting posts about luck for Time Warp Tuesday, the monthly blog hop offered by Kathy at Bereaved and Blessed.

(Which, because I don’t like malted beverages, gives me much more to work with than would revisiting posts about green beer.)

Kathy says:

The symbols associated with the holiday, including shamrocks and leprechauns, are often thought of as lucky. Choose a post from your archives in which you wrote about luck. Then write a new post about why you chose the post and what has happened in your life since.

I’ve closed comments here because I don’t have a lot to add to a post that encapsulates my philosophy and life-view, which means there’s nothing to comment on here. So click over to The Tao of Luck to see a post that shows how I try to ride the swells of luck. Would love your comment there (if you missed it the first time around).

riding the wave of luck

See Time Warp Tuesday to read more posts about luck, and maybe even add your own (even if it’s no longer Tuesday).