Category Archives: Birth parent

Birth Mom: Help Me Write Letter to Son’s Adoptive Mom

Can a Birth Mom and Adoptive Mom from the Closed Era Coexist?

And if so, how?

Clare is a first mom who was found this year by her adult son. She left a comment recently, one that led to our email exchange. She recognizes that the readers here are savvy and sage, and that she might be able to tap into well-considered viewpoints from all parts of the adoption constellation.

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Clare says:

I am considering sending a letter to my son’s parents and asking if they would like to meet with me for us to get to know each other a bit more and to help clear the air.

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“I am a Birth Grandmother Walking the Open Adoption Trail”

What is it like when your daughter places your granddaughter for adoption? Mary Jo Bennett shares what the journey has been like for her.

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The Ambivalence of a Mother-Slash-Birth-Grandmother

When your first grandchild is born into an open adoption, it’s not easy.  Many of the landmarks of becoming a grandmother are skewed.  Right out of the gate, when your child tells you she is pregnant and planning an adoption, you enter into a sea of ambivalence and uncertainty.  What do you feel?  How do you respond?  If a part of you wants your child to keep the baby in the family, how strongly do you advocate for this?  And do you have the right to even advocate at all? Continue reading “I am a Birth Grandmother Walking the Open Adoption Trail”