What Carolyn Hax Could Have Said on Adoption Question

A recap of the situation a letter writer brought to Washington Post advice columnist Carolyn Hax:

“Tell My Son” and wife adopted a baby born to a teenage niece. Now age 5 or 6, Jake has always known he was adopted. His parents showed him a photo of his birth mom, Tara, when he was old enough. They told him he could get more information about his birth parents any time he wanted.

At some early point the wife was advised to “never give Jake more information than he wants.”

Due to geographic distance,  Jake and Tara have seen each other only a handful of times, and the parents report that Jake has never connected with her picture. Tara is a little awkward during visits, and the letter writer says “she avoids us when she’s visiting.”

adoption adviceWith an upcoming annual visit, Tara would now like to begin to cultivate a more authentic relationship with her son. Her big ask of Jake’s parents is that they give Jake the truth about her.

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Does An Adopted Child Really NEED a Therapist?

Question: Some kids in my adoption community have history,  sometimes unhappy, harsh, and/or abusive history before they joined their families. The kids sometimes talk about their history with their adoptive mothers who attend a support group I host.

Is that enough? Or is it better that these children work with a therapist? If these children talk at a young age and their mothers comfort them, will their teen year be better? Or will they still have tough teenage years?

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Golden Milk

I know turmeric is good for you; I just needed new ideas how to consume more of it. So when Costco Connection magazine mentioned Golden Milk in its effort to sell turmeric, I was all ears.

“Many scientific studies have reported that turmeric may assist in the treatment of cancer, cardiovascular disease, arthritis, Crohn’s disease, ulcerative colitis, and renal conditions, among many others.”        — Costco Connection magazine 

I have not been diagnosed with any of those conditions, but the list of ailments says to me that turmeric reduces inflammation, which is often the start of many bodily problems. I don’t want inflammation and I do want more turmeric. But how?

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