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Recent Articles
What Parents Need to Know about the Adoptee Consciousness Model
Scholar JaeRan Kim, PhD, and content creator Patrick Armstrong, both adoptees, talk about the Adoptee Consciousness Model.
Songs to Access Big Emotions & Facilitate Healing (part 3)
From lullabies to laments, music can heal. Here is part 3 of 7 of Lori’s healing playlist for infertility and adoption.
Songs to Access Big Emotions & Facilitate Healing (Part 2)
From lullabies to laments, music can heal. Here is part 2 of 7 of Lori’s healing playlist for infertility and adoption.
Songs to Access Big Emotions & Facilitate Healing (part 1)
From lullabies to laments, music can heal. Here is part 1 of 7 of Lori’s healing playlist for adoption, infertility, and death.
Open Adoption Advice for Tricky Situations
Open Adoption is HARD (but worth it)
So many parents I’ve talked with are committed to openness in adoption because they understand how evolving from an Either/Or mindset to a BothAnd* heartset better serves everyone involved.
Regular old parenting can get tough, but add in emotionally-charged elements around adoption and things can get really hairy. No parenting guide can give all the answers, but once you know how to set your parenting GPS you’ll know how to find answers right for you in a particular situation.
* To emphasize the integrating of BothAnd, I deliberately do not use a hyphen.
Open Adoption Grid: Adding a Dimension to the Open Adoption Spectrum
Update 2021 Angela Tucker, Katie Biron, Kara Andersen, and I created this 3-minute animated explainer video under the auspices of Amara for the information below
How to Avoid Being Gobsmacked by your 18 Year-Old Adoptee
How can it happen that an adoptive parent doesn’t see it coming, their child connecting with birth parents? It’s no fun to be gobsmacked!
Returning to the Well
Is This Weird?? My friend Crystal offered to have my children come play at her house for a few hours. Roger had been out of
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Date Night Mishaps
The night my house broke up with me
A night with toddlers locked in my own personal panic room.
*thisclose*
My near-death experience, which went unnoticed by everyone else.
Judgy McJudgerson
A woman at a street festival bugs the crap out of me in a 3-part saga. Judgy much?
Love & Family
Mom badge
I earned it. Holy crap, did I earn it.
My one-and-only pregnancy photo
Paulie, me and Sunny D. Funny (in a take-back-the-infertility kind of way) because I was never really pregnant.
Family of origin of the species
This explains a lot.
Grant Us Peace
3 part harmony with my sisters