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Recent Articles
Adoption: The Long View Finale | Best Of Season 5 Advice
Best advice from adoption experts in Season 5 of Adoption: The Long View. Plus the series finale & a song from a new adoption-themed musical.
Wait—What?? Not All Parts Get Adopted?
Kathy Mackechney, adoptee and LCSW explains the intersection of Internal Family Systems and adoption, and why not all parts get adopted.
Let Me Fix This For You, Luella.
A companion article to Luella Dalpymple’s disastrous advice how adoptive parents can prevent estrangement with their adoptee.
Songs to Access Big Emotions & Facilitate Healing (part 5)
From lullabies to laments, music can heal Here is part 5 of 7 of Lori’s healing playlist for infertility and adoption.
Open Adoption Advice for Tricky Situations
Open Adoption is HARD (but worth it)
So many parents I’ve talked with are committed to openness in adoption because they understand how evolving from an Either/Or mindset to a BothAnd* heartset better serves everyone involved.
Regular old parenting can get tough, but add in emotionally-charged elements around adoption and things can get really hairy. No parenting guide can give all the answers, but once you know how to set your parenting GPS you’ll know how to find answers right for you in a particular situation.
* To emphasize the integrating of BothAnd, I deliberately do not use a hyphen.
“Real” in Adoption and how it Splits our Babies
When we talk about who is and isn’t real in adoption, we split the baby. Fortunately there is a better alternative to this Either/Or mindset.
Returning to the Well
Is This Weird?? My friend Crystal offered to have my children come play at her house for a few hours. Roger had been out of
To the Woman Who Longs to Be a Mom and Who Says “I Want a Closed Adoption”
I hear you when you say “I want a closed adoption.” I was there, too, and I had to unlearn a few things everyone “knows” about adoption.
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Date Night Mishaps
The night my house broke up with me
A night with toddlers locked in my own personal panic room.
*thisclose*
My near-death experience, which went unnoticed by everyone else.
Judgy McJudgerson
A woman at a street festival bugs the crap out of me in a 3-part saga. Judgy much?
Love & Family
Mom badge
I earned it. Holy crap, did I earn it.
My one-and-only pregnancy photo
Paulie, me and Sunny D. Funny (in a take-back-the-infertility kind of way) because I was never really pregnant.
Family of origin of the species
This explains a lot.
Grant Us Peace
3 part harmony with my sisters