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Wrong Way Adoption: The Back Story (Part 2)

In Part 1, Clemencia Deleon began to tell about her wrong way adoption, a kinship placement that was supposed to be open. Despite expectations and agreements, it remained unknown to her son that the woman he lived with but didn’t call “mom” was, in fact, his biological mom.

That was an untenable situation. One way or another, a living lie will resolve — with intention or without it. And there will be fallout.

Here’s how things unfolded for Clemencia, her son Kobe, and his parents — her half-brother and his wife.

People in kinship adoptions need a map, too. Or they may go the wrong way.
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Kinship Adoptions Need Openness, Too: A Birth Mom’s Story

Clemencia Deleon reached out to me several months ago, grateful to have found place to talk about adoption that is neither all “rainbows & unicorns” nor “fire & brimstone.” I told her that in this space we allow for the complexity of living in adoption from all stations of the constellation, and I invited her to tell her story as a birth mother in a kinship adoption.

Kinship adoption is rather unexplored territory for me, so I was thrilled that Clemencia offered her thoughts about the kinship adoption of her son, Kobe, gone wrong. Her two-part tale of pitfalls and regret is instructive to us all.

Please welcome Clemencia Deleon.

openness in kinship adoption

An Oozing Wound

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4 More Tips for Parenting in a Pandemic

Cultivating Connection with a Separation-Saturated Child During Covid-19

In normal times, parenting a child with separation anxiety can be challenging. But parenting during current quarantine practices of stay-at-home, shelter-in-place, and whatever comes next is super taxing for parents of separation-saturated children.

Last month, Sara Easterly offered 4 tips in Part 1 of Parenting an Adoptee During a Pandemic. She is back now with Part 2, four more tips gleaned from wisdom and insights as an adoptee, a daughter, a mom, and an attachment specialist with The Neufeld Institute.

Want more Sara? Check out her first guest post (non-Covid) and her second guest post (Covid), as well as her blog and her book (which my adoption book club loved).

4 tips for parenting in pandemic by Sara Easterly

4 More Tips for Parenting in a Pandemic by Sara Easterly

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