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Ditch the Pitchforks. The Problem is She Revealed the Truth.

A few weeks ago, the “world’s most-used adoption site,” the “largest online adoption community,” the “most-read publisher of adoption articles, videos and other content” published an article titled The Baby Bust: Why Are There No Infants to Adopt?

A few days ago, the article became a topic of discussion in two of my cross-triad adoption groups.

Homes for Babies? Or Babies for Homes?

The article probably meant to explain the current baby bust and advise potential adoptive parents what to do about it. If adoption is about finding babies for homes, then perhaps the article met its mark.

But among those who believe adoption should be about finding homes for babies, the article incited quite a furor. The article has been taken down, but here are some passages to illustrate why it was so inflammatory.

Short Supply

The author, herself an adoption attorney, outlined the market forces that make it very difficult for prospective adoptive parents to find a baby.

From time to time, consumers find certain items in short supply. For example, at the beginning of the pandemic, cleaning supplies and toilet paper were hard-to-find products. In recent years, prospective adoptive parents have realized that infants to adopt are available in increasingly limited quantities.

Is adoption about finding homes for babies or babies for homes? When the system is based on supply and demand, we commodify babies.

Readers were incensed at the comparison of toilet paper and humans. Why did the author do that? I suspect it was not to put babies on par with the lowest of paper goods, but rather to elicit the feelings of desperation we all had for toilet paper a year ago, and how we had to wait for supply to catch up with demand.

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4 More Tips for Parenting in a Pandemic

Cultivating Connection with a Separation-Saturated Child During Covid-19

In normal times, parenting a child with separation anxiety can be challenging. But parenting during current quarantine practices of stay-at-home, shelter-in-place, and whatever comes next is super taxing for parents of separation-saturated children.

Last month, Sara Easterly offered 4 tips in Part 1 of Parenting an Adoptee During a Pandemic. She is back now with Part 2, four more tips gleaned from wisdom and insights as an adoptee, a daughter, a mom, and an attachment specialist with The Neufeld Institute.

Want more Sara? Check out her first guest post (non-Covid) and her second guest post (Covid), as well as her blog and her book (which my adoption book club loved).

4 tips for parenting in pandemic by Sara Easterly

4 More Tips for Parenting in a Pandemic by Sara Easterly

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Adoptees & the Covid-19 Pandemic: A Guide for Parents

So many of you read and appreciated Sara Easterly’s last guest post. I was thrilled when Sara offered her thoughts what adoptive parents need to know about adoptees and the Covid-19 pandemic that affects us all.

We are all under stress, encountering disruption and disconnection as never before. Sara’s guest post addresses the fears today’s adopted children may be experiencing and the messages they need to receive from parents.

Sara’s insights come as an adoptee as well as a staff member and at the Neufeld Institute, which provides education and training for an attachment-based developmental model. Read on…

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