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Yes, We DO Need Adoption-Competent Hospital Birthing Centers

Hospitals continually strive to improve so many aspects of patient care. What improvements are being made in the way we “do” adoption at the hospital?

Pioneered in Colorado at Parker Adventist Hospital, the Family to Family Support Network is going national in helping families create child-centered open adoptions from the very beginning, through adoption training in hospital labor and delivery wards.
is your hospital adoption competent?
Here is an interview with founder Rebecca Vahle on why she’s made it her mission* that more and more hospitals serve EVERYONE involved in a possible adoption situation more effectively.

Continue reading why this program is necessary for nurses, for adopting parents, for women and men in unplanned pregnancies, for babies, and for hospital administrators and stakeholders — and what you can do to bring it to your local hospital.

* I am so stoked about Family to Family’s mission that I have recently joined its board of directors.

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The Time a 9News Crew Came to My House

Last week TaRhonda Thomas, a 9News reporter from Denver’s NBC affiliate station, along with cameraman Matt, interviewed me in my home. Apparently I did a terrible job hiding my love of purple.

Writer Lori Holden on 9News

The interview was part of a piece that featured Amber Johnson, my editor at MileHighMamas.com (which, incidentally, is seeking new contributors).

So come on in to my living room (and Amber’s back porch).

Continue reading The Time a 9News Crew Came to My House

Cover Story: Biology Matters in Embryo Adoption

biology matters in embryo adoptionBiology Matters, And That’s Why Openness Does, Too

Below is an excerpt from the Summer/Fall 2015 issue of Pathway 2 Family. My article is the cover story. It aims to apply what we now know about infant adoption to the realm of embryo adoption.


Why not just stick with secrecy?
The way we once did traditional adoption didn’t always work so well, especially for the child at the center.

  • With secrecy we acted “as if” nothing remarkable had happened in the building of our family.     But it had.
  • With secrecy, we assumed the baby would be a blank slate on which we could write our own story.     But she wasn’t.
  • With secrecy, parents may not have fully grieved their own losses, been comfortable with difficult emotions that stem from those losses, nor have been open to answering questions the child may have asked of her beginnings. If we ignored those icky feelings and pushed away those hard conversations, we once thought, they’d just go away.     But they didn’t.

People used to choose secrecy out of fear.     But we no longer need to.

Openness is the antidote to both secrecy and fear. Continue reading Cover Story: Biology Matters in Embryo Adoption