I’ve been always told that it was a gray market adoption. — Sara Easterly, adoptee, author, daughter, mom
I never really knew what that meant.
When the entire approach to a societal issue is steeped in shame and secrecy, we end up with lots of opaque-ish words like fog and gray market — and worse. When it comes to adoption, if you start scrounging around in a thesaurus you can find even shadier words like dirty and impenetrable, words that sometimes apply to policies and practices.
Many adoptees and first parents, especially those from the Baby Scoop Era, can attest to this opacity and to problems that germinate in darkness. People then either suffer in the dark or find their way into the light — or maybe both.
Sara Easterly is one who did both. She has been coming out of the adoption fog for years, and now carries a flashlight to help others living in adoption. Her insights are especially helpful for adoptive parents to hear.
I’m excited to say that Sara is the latest guest on my podcast, Adoption: The Long View.
Continue reading Sara Easterly on Coming Out of the Adoption Fog
How easily can a proud parent’s enthusiastic sharing become oversharenting? Sara Easterly is back to help adoptive parents remember to see even the most common things from our child’s point of view.
Aside: my interview with Sara for the podcast Adoption: The Long View was just released! It kicks off National Adoption Awareness Month, which centers on marginalized voices — adoptees and birth parents.. Make sure to subscribe wherever you get your podcasts (here’s where I do).
Sara’s episode is sooooooooo good and juicy — all of the episodes are!
Deciding when and how to share our kids’ stories publicly can be tricky for parents to navigate, especially when it seems everyone around us is posting photos and stories of their children online. Kid-focused posts are usually met with adoration from mainstream culture, who cherish a refreshing break from the rest of the feed that is so often ranting, despairing, or arguing.
Continue reading 8 Important Dynamics to Consider Before Oversharenting Your Adoption Story
Cultivating Connection with a Separation-Saturated Child During Covid-19
In normal times, parenting a child with separation anxiety can be challenging. But parenting during current quarantine practices of stay-at-home, shelter-in-place, and whatever comes next is super taxing for parents of separation-saturated children.
Last month, Sara Easterly offered 4 tips in Part 1 of Parenting an Adoptee During a Pandemic. She is back now with Part 2, four more tips gleaned from wisdom and insights as an adoptee, a daughter, a mom, and an attachment specialist with The Neufeld Institute.
Want more Sara? Check out her first guest post (non-Covid) and her second guest post (Covid), as well as her blog and her book (which my adoption book club loved).
4 More Tips for Parenting in a Pandemic by Sara Easterly
Continue reading 4 More Tips for Parenting in a Pandemic