And now there are four

Even though I’ve been a mom now for ten Mother’s Days, this most recent one brought a first as well as a completion.

For the tenth year in a row, Tessa’s first mom called and we wished each other Happy Mother’s Day.

For the third year in a row, Tessa’s first dad texted me Happy Mother’s Day wishes — and an invitation to dinner soon.

For the first time in awhile, Reed’s first mom sent me Mother’s Day greetings along with her appreciation for being a good mom to Reed. She is a woman of few words, so I can’t tell you how much her Facebook message means to me. Of course, I returned the Mother’s Day wishes to her.

And for the very first time on Mother’s Day, I had a text message and then a phone call from Reed’s first dad. We’ve recently established contact, and today I am mailing him a set of photos of Reed through the years. We hope to be in the same state soon so that we can meet.

Our open adoptions are now complete.

And, g*d willing, ongoing.

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23 thoughts on “And now there are four”

  1. I admire you so much! What an amazing and beautiful life you have created for yourself, for your children, and for others.

  2. That’s fabulous that things are progressing and that the relationship with Reed’s first parents are progressing and ongoing.  I wish for a smooth journey for all.

  3. Lori, I’ve been meaning to tell you this for the last few weeks.  Several years ago, when we first found out about our IF diagnosis and started telling family, my mom gave me an article about open adoption that was so incredibly touching and gave me strength to know that motherhood was in my future no matter the avenue as long as I kept moving forward.  We’ve been rearranging our spare rooms to get ready for our first child and I came across the article.  I instantly recognized the name and photo on the article – it was you.  I got goosebumps immediately because not only have you been a source of inspiration to me through your blog since I started reading a couple years ago, but even before I knew who you were, you inspired me.  Thank you, and happy belated Mother’s Day.

  4. I got the chills reading this post…probably because I know how important it is for you to have and maintain contact with your kids’ birth parents…and also how important this step is for Reed. Yeah!

    Happy Mother’s Day!

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  7. I’m so excited about the possibilities, for all of you! Also very glad to hear that M reached out.

  8. I think this speaks to what an amazing person you are. I am so excited about all the hope this gives other adoptive famlies, how this post just made my eyes teary with the AMOUNT of Love that I felt reading it.

    It means so much to your family, to Reed…to the whole circle of love that you have been creating.
    AWESOME news…HAPPY HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!

  9. Amazing.  I don’t know what my future holds as far as family building, but if I have the priviledge to adopt, you have been an amazing inspiration for how to walk that road.

  10. Such a beautiful, unique Mother’s Day. And just so amazing to see the wonderful relationship you all have!

  11. Seems like we both had things coming full circle this Mother’s Day. It is a great testiment to how you mother to all those around you that you have been able to bring this whole extended family together in a loving, healing way.

  12. That is awesome. I don’t even have to expain just how much, because you know I know. Gives me hope, too…  

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