I’m seeing a pattern, connecting dots.
I was at the library the other day and noticed that our adoption agency had fliers on the table. I picked one up.
Inside are questions: Are you worried about attachment? Does your child ask “why was I given up”? Is your child experiencing anger, depression, mood swings, isolation? Continue reading It’s Dawning on Folks that Adoption Isn’t a One-Time Event
Question: Our son’s birth mom has been telling lies about what happens at visits. She said we didn’t let our our 3 year-old open his Christmas gifts from her. He opened them right in front of her! (He was running around not really focusing on any one present). She also lied and said that we’ve cancelled previous visits and came up with excuses for not seeing her, neither of which are true.
This has become a nightmare. She’s cut us off, which is fine with us because we’re not crazy about having contact with someone who lies to our face. This isn’t what we thought open adoption would be. — Jessica
Jessica’s initial message led to further email conversations.
Take Out The Adoption Charge
Hi, Jessica. I’m curious. How would you handle a similar situation if this behavior were coming from your sister or mother-in-law? If you think of it this way, you can distill your response to her behavior from the any emotions you may have around your connection with her via adoption (which can be highly-charged).
Continue reading What Do I Do When She Lies to My Face?