It’s December again, and as we wrap up 2022, we are also wrapping up Season 3 of Adoption: The Long View.

As we plan for Season 4 (and maybe beyond), I invite you to give us specific feedback. What challenges would you like to hear us explore? What would you like to know more about? Drop me a line with the subject line Hey! I listen to Adoption The Long View. Let us know which episodes in the previous three seasons have had an impact on you and what that impact was. We’d love to hear from you how to make Season 4 as relevant as possible to the issues that matter to you.

Gratitude

I’m incredibly grateful for the 11 amazing guests who talked with me during Season 3, a remarkable group comprising 7 adoptees, 1 birth parent, 4 adoptive parents, 2 people who got OFF the adoption roller coaster, and 2 people in differing roles within their interracial families (some in dual positions; don’t even try with the math). We heard from playwrights and podcasters, executives and educators, moms and dads and sons and daughters, wise and generous each one of them.

Thanks also to each of you who listen and rate our episodes. It really helps get the word out. This is a completely free podcast — no advertising and no paywall. Should you wish to contribute to its ongoing existence, we simply ask that you share this podcast with others. Many thanks for doing so.

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It’s National Adoption Awareness Month!* I can think of no better way to honor it than to listen to an adoptee, especially one who is also raising an adoptee.

We always talked about adoption. It was normalized in our household.

Allison Olson in Ep 309 of Adoption: The Long View

Our guest was adopted and grew up in the closed adoption era and is now an advocate of open adoption. As she tried to figure out how to parent in a way she herself was not parented she was dismayed by the lack of early reader books about open adoption. When she didn’t find what she needed, she decided to fill that gap.

In so doing, children’s book author Allison Olson is set on changing the adoption narrative from the “lucky” child to the “loved” child.

How to talk open adoption with your young child ? Here are practical tips for you — and a storybook to go with them.

* This is why you’ll see adoptee voices represented here all month, including Allison’s. Subscribe so you get notified when each amazing guest essay is published.

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If I ask you to imagine a transracial adoptive family, what image comes to your mind? What race is the parent? What race is the child?

This month’s guest is a transracial adoptive mom (or “interracial,” a term that previous guest Tony Hynes told me he prefers in Ep307). Lynn Brown‘s two daughters were placed with her through the foster care system with the intent of reunification with the girls’ birth family, but it turned out that wasn’t possible. Eventually, the adoptions were finalized. 

Now compare my guest’s reality with the image I asked you to conjure of a transracial family. Lynn Brown is Black. Her daughters are white.

I admit it. When I think of a transracial adoptive family, I think of white parents. I think about the extra things these parents need to do to bring their children’s heritage to them and to try to better understand their children’s culture themselves. Clearly, I hold some assumptions about who adopts and who gets adopted. So when I met Lynn at an adoption camp recently, I wanted to know more about her story.

Here to talk about transracial parenting in general and her situation in particular, is Lynn Brown.

I would hear: “Are you the nanny?”
I used to justify and overshare.

Now I have this resting bitch face and people don’t approach and question me as much.

Lynn Brown in Ep 308 of Adoption: The Long View

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