VIPs: Very Important Posts from August 2012

September 5, 2012

Jill takes on the controversial topic of enforceable open adoption agreements in Openness and Contracts. Her view of  it may not be what you might expect from a birth mother. An enforceable openness contract would have made me suspicious of any contact I got from P and M. The openness I have now means the […]

VIPs: Very Important Posts from July 2012

August 1, 2012

Amanda resists the urge to bang her head against a wall when someone tells her, “So go look at your birth certificate!” at Land of Gazillion Adoptees. Think about the nails-on-chalkboard phrase to infertile people, “Just adopt!” and you’ll get a sense why this grated so. My birth certificate, gee, now why didn’t I think […]

VIPs: Very Important Posts from June 2012

July 3, 2012

A post at Patheos reveals how one mother moved from the letter of an open adoption agreement to the true spirit of open adoption. You can see how the woman’s perspective shifts from her own to her child’s. Jenni Levy explains in My Daughter Has Two Mothers how Emma brought her birth mom into their […]

VIPs: Very Important Posts from May 2012

June 1, 2012

Akin to law enforcement’s unbroken “chain of custody,” we humans have an innate desire to know our history. ALL of our history, including, as one writer points out, any time between one’s birth parents and one’s adoptive parents. Amanda had a mother in between her two moms. In her Letter to My Foster Mother, Amanda […]