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Out and about

It’s spring here in the northern hemisphere, things are warming up and people are getting out and reacquainted with their neighbors.


I’ve been out and about, too. Here are a few places I’ve visited. Wanna come? Stroll with me.

1. Melissa Ford — of the just-released novel Measure of Love (which I’ve already loaded onto my Kindle) — is doing me the great honor of hosting a virtual book club for my book, The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow Up Whole (early reviews are coming in and it’s so exciting). More on how to participate and to sign up here.

To answer the obvious questions that you’ll have after you click over: no, you don’t have to be barren, and no, you don’t have to be a bi+ch to sign up (but it’s also OK if you are).

In a nutshell, to participate, you (a) get and read my book — sorry, the publisher isn’t able to tell me when the e-book format will be available, so for now it’s hardback only, (b) send one question to Melissa that you’d like the group to discuss, and (c) write your own post on May 9 answering the questions that others have posed.

I hope you join us.

2. I had an articleLori Holden in The Huffington Post (my first there) published in The Huffington Post. Thank you People magazine.

“In the moments of my children’s adoption — like the moment of Jenna [Wolfe]’s baby’s conception — a split was created in our children between their biology and their biography. Being open about our children’s origins is an effective way to heal this split and help them integrate their identities. Instead of hoping our children would never question their heritage, we assumed they would, so we (…more…)

Respectful discussion welcome there.

3. Kymberli of The Smartness has launched a new and happy site, Jump: 1,001 Reasons To Be Happy — and mine is #2! The whole site is a great pick-me-up.

“Did you win the lottery? Find an extra nugget in your 10-piece? Joys big and small make you wanna Jump, Jump. If you find a Reason to Be Happy, take a Jump! Shot photo and share…share happiness.

4. I received some photos from the Parenthood for Me gala I keynoted at last month. An aside: founder Erica (in the center) joyously welcomed her baby girl into the world this week. It’s gratifying to bear witness to the bee-yoo-tiful unfolding of her story.

Speaking of stories, that’s Carolyn Savage on the left. I recently finished reading her book, Inconceivable: The Medical Mistake, The Baby We Couldn’t Keep, and Our Choice to Deliver the Ultimate Gift. It’s the mark of a gifted storyteller when you know how the tale turns out but you’re riveted anyway. You’ll see why Carolyn was the perfect person to write the foreword for my book, based on the one-in-a-gazillion experience she’s had.

Back to the gala. Adoption STAR, who made my appearance at the event possible, recapped the event, and I’m sharing some pix with you here.

Lori Holden keynotes at Parenthood for Me gala

I hope you enjoyed strolling the ‘hoods with me! Happy spring weekend to you — and wishes for a relaxing amble through the leaves to my southern hemisphere friends.

Lori Holden, mom of a young adult daughter and a young adult son, writes from Denver. She was honored as an Angel in Adoption® by the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute.

Find Lori’s books on her Amazon Author page, and catch episodes of Adoption: The Long View wherever you get your podcasts.

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9 Responses

  1. Great news, Lori!!! I have to wait several weeks for your book to arrive! They’re all sold out on-line for my Canadian connections. I can’t wait to get my hands on it and give a copy to Little Miss’s Birthmother and my bestie.

    In terms of your article in HuffPost….really thoughtful and provocative. Two of my bestest friends are a married lesbian couple who got pregnant using donor sperm. I have often wanted to have the conversation about how they will field the boys’ questions about their biological heritage. They have some information but are fine with what they have. He is simply ‘a donor’ in their eyes. Fair enough. Their journey, not mine.

    But as an adoptive parent who has really challenged myself around my own limitations…I can’t help but think…’what will THEY (the boys) want’???

    While adoption and donor sperm/egg are different…they are still somewhat very similar. The child will still experience ‘loss’. There is no way around that. Open doors are important. It isn’t about wanting to ‘parent’…as I think many fear. It’s about the connection FOR the child…period.

    Of course, this is a conversation that is delicate and difficult to have. Baby steps are needed as they travel their parenthood journey and I, mine. I am certainly no expert here. Just intrigued to see if they may be open to finding out more for their sons down the road.

    As always, I enjoyed reading your article and the comments that followed. 😉

  2. I enjoyed reading the article on HuffPo. You made some great points, some that made me say, well, duh! and then remember that not everyone has been following your blog for years. They really should. 🙂

  3. Great pictures!! 🙂

    The book was sold out on our Canadian online seller sites the last time I checked — need to recheck again, because I would love to read it in time to take part in the tour!

  4. 1. I am signed up and excited! I have skimmed your book, but am looking forward to reading it straight through, soon. It is next in my queue! 🙂

    2. That was a great post! Congrats on being HuffPosted! 🙂

    3. Fun that you jumped into participating in Kym’s new and inspiring venture!

    4. Glad it went so well and was fun so! Wish I could have been there to hear you speak and hang out with you can Carolyn! Glad you enjoyed her book! I felt the same way, about knowing how it ended and still finding it so compelling. I loved how Sean and Carolyn switch back and forth telling their story. Congrats to Erica on her new addition!

    So fun to see the photos too! 🙂

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