Show & Tell: Hard Copy

I knew this day was coming. I alluded to it here.

Last week I got my advance copy of this.

And I flipped open to this.

That’s Crystal (Tessa’s birthmom) and her children with me and my children.

It’s the September/October issue, available on newsstands soon. Or you can subscribe to Adoptive Families.

Oh! I see I’m wearing my self-beater shirt in the photo.

**UPDATE: The article is now available online .**

See what my classmates are showing and telling at Mel’s Show & Tell.

52 thoughts on “Show & Tell: Hard Copy”

  1. Lori, this is wonderful! You are really getting out there as a reputable voice in the open adoption world. You are making a HUGE difference. That is awesome!

    I can’t wait to read the article. Will you autograph my copy??

  2. whoa! has to be a little strange to see yourselves in print, no? My gosh, exciting, and just a little nerve wrecking, I would guess. congrats to you and to all of you for sharing your stories so honestly. Truly a blessing (and you know I don’t use those kinds of words lightly).

  3. Lori – your strong voice and even stronger convictions on this topic will, indeed, change the world – one family at a time.


  4. I am reading this post in a self-beater too πŸ™‚ A black one though.

    Congratulations! Huge congratulations. I think I focused so much on the brain tumour aspect of the other post that I completely missed asking about this part. Tunnel vision.

  5. This is amazing!! You and your families are so beautiful. Wow, I am so proud to know you. I’m all teary over here, Mazel Tov.

  6. Got my copy in the mail yesterday and I had forgotten about your article. When I started reading it was like Deja Vu…then I realized why!

    Congrats and great piece!

  7. Yeah! Just another outlet for you to get the word out AWESOME my friend. You are becoming quite the spokeswoman for open adoption and I think its awesome!

  8. Yep – fabulous article! I saw the picture and thought “HEY – I know her!” (Well, at least in an electronic bloggy sort of way!)
    Congrats – yours is an amazing story – thanks for sharing!

  9. That’s really exciting! What a great photo, and I’m sure the article is equally fabulous. Way to go!

  10. So cool! You’re such a beacon for people struggling with family building. After reading about your bright light at the end of the tunnel, one just has to feel better.

  11. that is so awesome! how wonderful to share your extended family this way. what a beautiful picture too. I’m so glad you turned that post into an article. it’s perfect! kudos to you for sharing it here too.

  12. How amazing!!! The picture is gorgeous and I imagine that the article is fabulous as well. I’ll be keeping an eye out for the magazine.

  13. How cool! Where can we get it without a subscription? Maybe at B&N? Congrats on being a glossy magazine star πŸ™‚

  14. Absolutely lovely!

    Strange thing is in that pic, Tessa’s forehead looks like mine from when I was a kid….had her kind of a hairstyle.

  15. πŸ™‚ although it’s a bit conceited, I like when I see myself in print ;). Congrats on the spread!

  16. You are MY claim to fame!! Girl, you are amazing and I’m so very proud to be one of your stalkers!!! :o)

    I’m getting a copy and hope for an autograph when we see each other at the MHM shin ding!

    HUGS AND CONGRATS!!!!! :o) !!!!

  17. that is awesome. I’ve always loved your ‘returning to the well’ concept. beautiful photo. great spread.
    and to think… I knew you when..


  18. Sweet.. You are the second person I’ve known (or followed in blog) to make it into AF magazine. I can’t wait to get my copy in my mail box. tap tap tap

  19. I loved the article – it was wonderful. I just was a little concerned, though, when you mentioned that throwing away your daughter’s boots would be a “logical consequence.” Logical consequences usually relate to the infraction – for instance if it was a hot summer day and she wanted to wear the boots, the logical consequence would be that her feet would be hot. Or if she wanted to wear them to school, a logical consequence would be that she couldn’t participate in PE because she didn’t have the right footwear. Simply discarding something because your daughter made a different choice isn’t “logical.” It could definitely be a learning lesson or a consequence, but it is not a logical consequence. Otherwise I thought your article was absolutely wonderful. We also have very open contact with our daughter’s birthparents and I am thrilled with it.

  20. Thank you, everyone. It wouldn’t have happened without all your bloggy support.

    Stephanie: It seems that you find fault with the term “logical consequence.” Unfortunately the article was edited for length, and some of the context was removed. If you read the original post on which the article was based, you’ll see that the boots were dangerously oversized as well as in violation of the school’s dress code and wholly age-inappropriate. The consequence of losing the boots in this case really would have been a “logical consequence,” one developed after a long history of dealing with Tessa’s choices of inappropriate clothing and general difficulty foreseeing the results of her actions.

    Also unfortunately, my initial reaction to your comment was visceral — as would be the reaction of many parents who feel criticized, particularly those who have struggled to parent a challenging child. And, like all parents, I am not perfect, as I wrote about here (

    Criticism of my parenting strikes a raw nerve, as I know it does for many others.