In Greek mythology, Fate has three aspects who manage a mortal’s thread of life. Clotho spins the thread, Lachesis measures it, and Atropos cuts it with her shears.
(I was introduced to the Three Fates via the fantasy series, The Incarnations of Immortality. Book 3 was among a handful of thousands of books I’ve read that left an enduring imprint.)
Similarly Hindu culture presents the Trimurti of Brahma the Creator, Vishnu the Sustainer, and Shiva the Destroyer, or Transformer.
I am Lachesis. I am Vishnu. I can keep things new like nobody’s business. I keep the factory sleeve on a new phone until the screen protector I order for it arrives. I kept socks from college drill team for 20+ years until one got a hole in it and my husband ridiculed me into throwing the pair away (both of them; what a waste). I still play the flute and piccolo I got as a Christmas present while in middle school — both are in excellent condition in their original case. An entire corner of our crawl space is devoted to boxes for blow dryers, crock pots, laptops, hand vacs, car DVD players — just in case I ever want to return the contents to their original packaging (why? I do not know).
I am a sustainer. I keep things new for years, decades. Cars, clothes, electronics, furniture, dishes, books, STUFF — they all last a loooong time and I take great pains and pride to make that to happen.
I live with a Destroyer. There is a Shiva, an Atropos in my life. Car doors get scratched and dented. Hallway walls get gashed. Clothes get torn — ON PURPOSE. Shoes last a month if I’m lucky (obsolete not for size but for mud or holes or being secreted into the giveaway bag). Gadgets, sundries, bikes, instruments, jackets, electronics are !finished! in one way or another after months rather than years.
I’m going mad thing-by-thing. The function of Transforming sounds possibly acceptable, but Destroying makes absolutely no sense to me. (I get that Nature needs worms and fungi and decay as part of the renewal process, but here I’m not seeing much renewal around here). Does it make sense to you??
I may have to concede that a Sustainer simply can’t win against a Destroyer.
Which are you: a Creator, a Sustainer, or a Destroyer? Do you regularly deal with someone at cross-purposes to you? If so, HOW??