May 11, 2007
- Tessa and Reed are both in pre-school.
- My family has just moved from a old Victorian home that has only one bathroom. We moved because it had become agonizingly apparent that the old Victorian no longer worked for a family of 4 potty-trained people.
- My brother-in-law has suddenly become paralyzed from the eyeballs down. I and other family members are taking turns doing overnight stays in his rehab hospital so he always has one of us with him. He is there so he and my sister can learn to navigate his life from a wheelchair.
- I have just started a yoga practice.
- Adoption forums are where I’m getting a more expansive education on the topic, from the first parent and adoptee viewpoints. I am shocked to find that Adoption isn’t what I thought it was.
- I begin reading bloggers who are writing about infertility and adoption, and on a whim I start this blog.
May 11, 2020
- Both Tessa and Reed have spent the last 2 months doing high school classes from their Chromebooks. Neither got a prom and one will have to wait several months for a graduation ceremony.
- Our home is a good place for us quarantine in. It makes possible a decent balance of togetherness and separateness. And it has enough bathrooms!
- My brother-in-law no longer needs a wheelchair and has been fully-abled for many years.
- I still practice yoga. Online if I must.
- I still learn about Adoption from all angles, but not at all from forums (dead) and not so much from personal blogs (dying breed). Newer forms of a previously unheard of thing called “social media” now host much of the conversation.
- We are in the middle of an unprecedented global pandemic. Everything is disrupted and everything that was once on autopilot must be re-thought. We are understanding at a deep level how interconnected we are, how much our choices affect others.
What an amazing time span to be journaling!
Looking Forward & Looking Back
I can’t help but wonder what the next 13 years will bring? What more changes will come?
Who will I be in another one-three?
Lori Holden, mom of a teen son and a young adult daughter, writes from Denver. Her book, The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow Up Whole, is available through your favorite online bookseller and makes a thoughtful anytime gift for the adoptive families in your life. Catch episodes of Adoption: The Long View wherever you get your podcasts.
Lori was honored as an Angel in Adoption® in 2018 by the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute.