Much of what people “know” about adoption — especially the parts that come from decades past — is bunk. Many adoption policies and practices formed in shame and secrecy during the 20th century have proven to be less-than-optimal for people living in adoption.
In this new episode of my podcast, Adoption: The Long View, I get to speak with adoptee and activist Rich Uhrlaub. Addressing antiquated notions of bygone eras, Rich has a lot to say about adoptees who grew up as a dirty little secret, several reasons why genetic information is important to adoptees, and what the alternative to shame and secrecy needs to be in our current practices.
Rich has been involved in adoption issues for a long time, perhaps most impactfully by being instrumental in changing the laws in my home state of Colorado. Thanks in no small part to Rich’s efforts, as of 2016, Tessa and Reed and tens of thousands or other adoptees born here now have the same ability as other adults to access their original birth certificates.
And they sky hasn’t fallen.
Episode 104: Rich Uhrlaub
In this episode, Rich and I cover these and other topics:
- Why is it wrong to seal records from adopted people?
- What is the opposite of shame and secrecy? And what does the answer mean for adoption policy?
- Why is genealogy an acceptable hobby for everyone except adopted people?
- What it’s like when your family ≠ your ancestors.
- When an adoptee becomes a parent, they understand with new clarity just how important the gene pool is.
- The trope of the noble sacrificing birth mother, and how that impacts adoptees.
- Modern adoption was constructed without knowing about attachment theory, about trauma and loss, about brain science. We know better now and need to continue to improve our constructs.
- The perils of unchecked Gotta Getta Baby Syndrome.
- Caution about “Gotcha Day” and the commodification of adoptees.
Prefer to read? Here’s a transcript.
Show Notes from the Rich Uhrlaub Episode
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You’re going to love hearing from Rich and the other fascinating guests I have lined up. I can’t wait to hear what you think!
Lori Holden, mom of a teen son and a young adult daughter, writes from Denver. Her book, The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow Up Whole, is available through your favorite online bookseller and makes a thoughtful anytime gift for the adoptive families in your life. Catch episodes of Adoption: The Long View wherever you get your podcasts.
Lori was honored as an Angel in Adoption® in 2018 by the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute.