Going Rogue. Or is that Rouge?

I needed a night out. There had been stressors at home, stressors in the classroom, stressors elsewhere.  Nothing major; just relentless. A few hours away from it all would be just the ticket.

My Vino Support Group (VSG) showed up for a girls night out at one of those painting and wining places. Joining us at Painting With a Twist were my fellow MileHighMamas writers Gretchen and Ratna.

gno girls night out denver
The bunny-ear bomber was quite cool, and a good artist.

Obviously, we had a blast. Not only did I get to hang out with friends, but I got to turn a blank canvas into something pretty (well, not hideous) and bebop to good music at the same time. All while sipping Apothic Red (do you love it, too? what the heck is in that to make it so good?).

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“You Don’t Look Adopted”

Anne Heffron is a highly gifted writer. In fact, she’s spent decades teaching writing to others, amid her own struggles around identity, brokenness, self-destructive habits, and conflicting emotions about her own mother (it’s mere coincidence that my last post was on the Happy/Sad of adoption). Her memoir and first book, You Don’t Look Adopted, was published four months ago (though Anne is already an accomplished screenwriter), and I have just recently begun reading it.

anne heffron's memoirWriting her memoir — finally — about the things most pressing but most difficult to talk about is but one of the therapies Anne has pursued in her quest for wholeness and self-worth.

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The Happy/Sad of Adoption

Last week I witnessed a private interaction that needs to be seen by a wider audience, for it addresses the fallacy that if adoptees are happy and connected to their (adoptive) parents, it follows that they will not have any adoption issues. Can there be a “Happy/Sad” of adoption?

At the request of the question asker and with the permission of the question answerer, I share their exchange here.

Question (from an adoptee): Can you see the distinction between how an adoptee feels about their own adoption and how adoption is practiced now? Can you explain in words others can hear that an adopted person who had a “good experience” can actually have serious concerns about adoption today and speak out about it?

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Bad Dream

I woke up the other morning in the middle of a bad dream. I’d been dreaming that someone had not only pulled my dog’s tail, but had pulled it OFF.

bichon poodle mix

In my pre-dawn dream world, my poor Dexter, proud wagger of a lush and expressive plume, would forever have to live with this amputation. And so would I.

The closest interpretation I can find of my bad dream is this:

“To dream of an animal’s tail represents obstacles and aggravation in situations where peace was anticipated.”

Well, I DID spend time on Facebook. I’m open to other guesses you may have what this dream may mean.

I had trouble shaking the feeling of anger and fear I woke up with. I remained in a grumpy mood all day. #firstworldproblem

Do you remember your dreams? Which ones stay with you more — good dreams or bad dreams? Do you try to find meaning in the ones that stay with you?

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