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What whole-hearted and positive statement can you make about your body? Your personality?
And, as you consider whether or not to make a comment, are you finding it easy or difficult to be whole-hearted?
Lori Holden, mom of a young adult daughter and a young adult son, writes from Denver. She was honored as an Angel in Adoption® by the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute.
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18 Responses
I have pretty eyes. I am generally giving (qualified because the giving sometimes depends on the person and what they ask)
I don’t find it difficult to be whole-hearted because I am a fairly straightforward person and an absolute realist. While I am more likely to tell you about my sturdy Polish legs, and the belly I inherited from my dad’s family, I also know that my eyes are my best feature. Personality, though is more difficult. Everything is qualified, because I am unlikely to be generous to people who have hurt me (i.e. I forgive, but I don’t forget).
As a young girl I always felt “fat.” Into college I was very self conscious about my body. Now I am proud to say that I feel very comfortable in my own skin. I accept those things that are not perfect according to society. The thing is that my weight and shape have not really changed since high school. It is all a mind set.
I love my long legs, and though I want to snark on my thighs, I’m holding back and proud of how far they carry me on long runs.
From the move anchorman “Mmmmm… I look good. I mean really good. Hey everyone… come and see how good I look.”
hehe 🙂
Love it, Shannon!
I love my body, in spite of all its imperfections.
I love how I can laugh out loud just like my mother.
That’s a wonderful trait to have, Rachel.
I think a big heart might be my best bodily feature. sadly, I find it difficult to embrace the outside of late.
Sigh. I know how you feel.
You DO have a big heart. Housed in a lovely body.
I can whole heartedly say that I love my body for all the times it has comforted, cuddled, and soothed my loved ones and all the kids I’ve cared for – whenever I feel unkind towards my body, I remember those times to turn my thoughts around!
That is a difficult one for me. I’m getting a little better at it but it’s still really hard for me to say there is something about my body that I whole heartedly love. My personality? Sure. That’s my sense of humor. My body? More difficult. I’d have to say either my eyes or my smile.
Your eyes and smile are beautiful. And I think loving one’s body is a journey for most of us.
I have a great smile! Yes, wholeheartedly, unreservedly, and unabashedly!! Mwah!!!!
Love this! Your smile comes through in your blogging.
I read this the day after it was published and then got distracted. For many hours while I was doing other things I thought about what I would put and – this part surprised me – I found I wanted to describe what I was saying with negative details.
As in:
My body is strong. As in “healthy” but not as healthy as I want it to be, but I feel like it won’t let me down in the near future. Well, not more than it has in terms of reproduction . . .
Yeah, like that. The funny thing is that I see myself as having a pretty good self esteem.
Personality wise – I like that I can get along with a lot of different personality types if I want to. I am good at reading people and telling them what they want to hear while still being honest. Like the verbal dance that goes on in job interviews.
Oooh, that verbal dance. I know it well.
I like that I genuinely like people for exactly who they are. ( unless they are evil, or full of ridicule for defenseless people). This is not to say I don’t have lively discussions. … That people don’t ever annoy me .. But I find myself liking them anyway.
I am also optimistic. I got this from both my parents. Even as my mom I slowly being consumed by cancer, she finds ways to say..”hey, it could be worse”
About my body: I like my hair…. Also from my wonderful, kind, sassy mom! ( Mom’s hair is thinner … Chemotherapy . “Hey, at least I am lucky enough to live in a country where chemo is available. At least it is working. … For now. It could be worse.”. Mom even named her wig. But I digress.
I agree with all your points. I so admire your good-heartedness toward others, and have been on the receiving end of it many times 🙂
And your optimism has affected me, too. Love your mama. And not just because she introduced me to Dark & Stormys.