National Adoption Month May Not Mean What You Think It Means

Whether you call it National Adoption Month or National Adoption Awareness Month, you may be surprised about facts surrounding its history and its intent.

7 Facts about National Adoption Month Two parents and two children

For, I researched 7 facts about this thing we observe in November. Where did it start? Why did it start? How did it become a thing? The first 4 are banal historic facts about NAM, also called NAAM.

The last 3 points, however, can help adoption professionals and adoptive parents — who have traditionally controlled the narrative about adoption — decide instead to do more listening and less talking.

Who merits the listening? You can probably guess, but click over to find out for sure. See if you can shift your thinking about adoption by pondering points 5, 6, and 7.

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Lori Holden, mom of a teen son and a teen daughter, writes from Denver. Her book, The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow Up Whole, is available through your favorite online bookseller and makes a thoughtful anytime gift for the adoptive families in your life. Catch episodes of Adoption: The Long View wherever you get your podcasts.

Lori was honored as an Angel in Adoption® in 2018 by the Congressional Coalition of Adoption Institute.

5 thoughts on “National Adoption Month May Not Mean What You Think It Means”

  1. I love the original intent of finding families for children in foster care.

    I hope that, with your help and greater education of the masses, people will begin to understand the complexities that surround adoption. It pains me when the concept is treated to glibly.

  2. Wonderful post, Lori. You do such a fabulous job of spreading awareness. Thanks to you, and a UK friend who is both an adoption social worker and adoptive mum, I’ve become aware of many of these issues, but the sheer numbers in the US – of children waiting for permanent families, or becoming adults without ever having a permanent families – are heartbreaking.

  3. Great article, Lori. I liked the last point most of all. I still don’t see as much of this (discussion and understanding of the complexities of adoption) as I think there needs to be. But thanks to you & people like you, the message is slowly getting out…! Thank you for all you do to build awareness!

  4. Awesome article, Lori. You do such a great job of educating the public on the intricacies of adoption, and the fact that it isn’t monolithic, as you said. This year in my classroom I have a relatively large number of students who are either adopted from various processes or who are in that limbo of foster care with the hope of reuniting (but the situation is super sticky and so it’s possible that may not happen). Seeing the effects of the trauma firsthand is eye opening. Seeing the duality of happiness with biographical family paired with deep loss of biological family, that thin line of “adoption is great and I have a great family” paired with “adoption also caused a terrible wound that makes me feel abandoned inside and want to find as many connections with my biology as possible” — it’s really tough to see. That trauma informed lens is super important, whether you’re a parent or another adult with a role in a child’s life. I feel so grateful to have learned so much from you that helps me be a better guidepost for these kids. 🙂

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