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9 Tips to Long Term Success in Parenting Through Adoption

Technically, the title is “9 Steps to Long Term Success in Parenting Through Embryo Adoption.” But practically, this webinar applies to parenting through adoption of other types: traditional, international, foster, open, as well as other third party reproduction methods like donor egg, donor sperm, donor embryo.

And closed. This message is especially for people inclined to choose a closed adoption.

adoption webinarThrough the Embryo Adoption Awareness Center, I delivered a webinar recently, available to you for free. Its description:

Many couples worry about how they will handle some of the big moments when parenting a child that came to them through embryo adoption. How they tell the story over time? Will they be able to answer questions that come up? How will they navigate things if their child asks if they can meet biological siblings? Join Lori Holden as she shares tips for long term success with an embryo adoption regardless of the level of ongoing contact you have with the placing family.

Cliff Notes for “9 Tips to Parenting Through Adoption”

Here’s a cheat sheet. Tune in to get explanations and details.

  • Laying the groundwork: Openness ≠ Contact.
  • Tip 1: Know that even regular old parenting will stretch you  — duh (11:25).
  • Tip 2: Tune into yourself (12:49).
  • Tip 3: See from your son’s or your daughter’s perspective (15:00).
  • Tip 4: Attune to your son or daughter (17:26).
  • Tip 5: Attend to your own sore spots that arise from insecurity, jealousy, grief (21:21).
  • Tip 6: Understand that what seems like a one-time event to you will be a lifelong journey for your son or daughter (24:39).
  • Tip 7: Keep your eye on the big picture: raising an identity-integrated adult (26:27).
  • Tip 8: Neutralize the emotional adoption charge to gain clarity (30:21).
  • Tip 9: Allow your son or daughter the fluidity to process over time (36:52).
  • Q&A (40:40).



More free adoption webinars along these lines.


What else would you include as a tip? I’m especially interested in hearing from adopted people and parents (both birth and adoptive) who feel they know something about raising an identity-integrated adoptee.


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