There’s something temptingly tidy about the idea of adoption. A family with extra love and resources meets a child in desperate need of both. Being adopted typically begins at the intersection of grief and loss for our birth parents and great joy for our adoptive parents.
Adoptees are wedged between that pain and joy.— Angela Tucker, thought leader from The Adopted Life —
Angela Tucker is on a mission to center adoptee voices — which have been historically marginalized — because she considers adoptees the experts in the adoption experience. That’s a great point, and adoptive parents are wise to listen, to understand.
In this new podcast episode of Adoption: The Long View, Angela talks about what it’s like to be wedged between the great pain of one set of parents and the great joy of the other. She tells a story about what can happen to an adopted person when they repeat an oft-used adoptive parent explanation like born in my heart. She also reveals the one thing that can stop an adoptee in their tracks from being authentic and vulnerable with their parents.
I know you’ll enjoy this fascinating conversation with Angela Tucker — and stick around to the end because there’s a special gift for the first 25 responders.
Ehh, I’ll just spill the beans now. For the first 25 who click through, Angela and her filmmaker husband Bryan Tucker have offered free access to Closure . Use that link, or enter promocode “lori” at checkout.
Episode 105: Angela Tucker
In this episode, Angela reveals:
- What happens when adoptees (teens) are in adoptee-only spaces, away from their adoptive parents
- What may need to be outsourced in adoptive parenting — especially in transracial adoptive parenting.
- On what she’s finding has her adoption agency excavates 50 year old adoption files through Project Search & Reunion, and Angela’s attempts to reunite items and information with their owners.
- Her best piece of advice for adoptive parents (asked of all guests).
Prefer to read? Here’s a transcript.
Shareable images below courtesy Clemencia Deleon.
Show Notes from the Angela Tucker Episode
- Project: The Adoptee Lounge
- Twitter: @theadoptedlife
- Instagram: @angieadoptee
- Facebook: The Adopted Life
- Podcast: The Adoptee Next Door (I highly recommend!)
- The book: The Adoptee Next Door: A Collection of Stories on Adoption & Belonging
- The film: Closure| Free access to the film Closure for the first 25 who click through or use the promo code “lori”
- My review of Angela Tucker’s documentary Closure
How to Tune In Regularly
You can find us on Adopting.com, and on these and other platforms.
- Apple Podcasts
- Amazon Podcasts
- Google Podcasts
- Search for “Adoption Long View” on your preferred podcast platform.
A new episode comes out the first Friday of the month. Thank you for sharing, subscribing, and rating this episode!
You’re going to love hearing from Angela and the other fascinating guests I have lined up for Season 1. I can’t wait to hear what you think!
Lori Holden, mom of a young adult daughter and a young adult son, writes from Denver. She was honored as an Angel in Adoption® by the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute.
Her first book, The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow Up Whole, makes a thoughtful anytime gift for the adoptive families in your life. Her second book, Standing Room Only: How to Be THAT Yoga Teacher is now available in paperback, and her third book, Adoption Unfiltered, will be published in late 2023.
Find Lori’s books on her Amazon Author page and catch episodes of Adoption: The Long View wherever you get your podcasts.
How wonderful, Lori, and how important to get the adoptee point of view. Because surely, that’s what adoption should be about – the welfare (life long) of the adoptee. Thanks to Angela for her work too.