The Year of the Luz 2015

Highlights and lowlights of 2015.

Quarter 1: Family Fight Night

It was a rough start to the year. My  inner badass was activated at my son’s basketball game and I almost got into a brawl.

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That was on the heels of our 3 Wheelchair Night.

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Quarter 2: Paperback (and Letter) Writer

My book came out in paperback.

Also, I wrote letters of disappointment to Dear Abby and a senator from Texas.
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Quarter 3: Health Scares

I had a health scare and my son had a freak accident. Continue reading The Year of the Luz 2015

Julian Lennon Gets this Crucial Piece of Open Adoption

One might think that Julian Lennon would have a heart filled with envy for his half-brother. Sean got the full-time dad, the intact family, paternal love and attention — so many vital relationship elements denied Julian while his father lived.

As with the biblical Esau vs Jacob and Joseph vs his 11 brothers, Julian had reason to see Sean as competition — or worse, the WINNER in the competition, through no fault or merit on either son’s part. After all, John Lennon left Julian and his mother behind, favoring Sean and showering his fatherly love on his younger son.

But somehow, Julian Lennon skipped emotions of murderous envy and stayed steadily on love and conciliation.

Not only that, but in later years, Julian had to resort to buying back his father’s memorabilia (including postcards from John to Julian) which had been auctioned by Yoko Ono.

(Watch from where it’ queued up to at least 6:15 — about a minute).

Later in the same CBS interview, Julian explains why he chooses to not be angry with Yoko Ono in spite of past difficulties over his father’s estate. Continue reading Julian Lennon Gets this Crucial Piece of Open Adoption

Kohl’s Adoption Video Brings Out the Either/Or Brigade

As part of its #AllTogetherNow campaign, Kohl’s features 19 year-old Raymond and his reunion with his birth mom after 17 years apart. Raymond finds he has a sister, born exactly 10 years after he was.

Both Raymond and his birth mother have responded to comments on YouTube.

Pick a side, Raymond.

Currently there are 148 comments. A common theme among many of them originates in the Either/Or mindset of the closed adoption era. Either she is your real mom or the other woman is.

Which part of you will you embrace, Raymond, and which will you deny?

  • “I hate this add [sic]. The importance he puts on his biological family is a slap in the face of the people who raised him.”

Continue reading Kohl’s Adoption Video Brings Out the Either/Or Brigade

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