Roundup: Best Advice from Season 1
With Episode 112 we close out the first season of Adoption: The Long View. Thank you for making is so successful! I’m so grateful for all of you for listening. Thank you for tuning in, for sharing with others, and for continuing to support us.
Prefer to read Episode 112? Here’s a transcript (but listening is so much better).
I’m also grateful for the 12 amazing guests who talked with me during Season 1, a remarkable group made up of 4 adoptees, 4 birth parents, 4 adoptive parents, 1 researcher, 4 activists, 1 therapist, and 1 in a double-position (don’t even try with the math!).
Each has delved into the complexities of adoption in a way that helps us become more comfortable and effective at the difficult parts of adoptive parenting. I’ve found that these parts get easier just by acknowledging them, being willing to look at them.
Best Of Season 1: Twelve Guests on What Adoptive Parents Need to Know about the Long View
If you’ve been following along, you know that my guest and I talk about a provocative topic that adopting parents need to know the ins and outs of, or at least various perspectives. They share brilliant nuggets of wisdom with me, and before we know it our time is up.
I end each interview by asking each guest the same question: what’s your best advice for adoptive parents about the long view of adoption?
In Episode 112 you get the digest, the down and dirty clips of what each guest had to say to that question. You may be surprised with some of the commonalities among them, and you may be intrigued by the “special sauce” brought to the table by each guest and their unique perspective and experience.
Listen in to is what my fabulous guests have said when I asked them to boil things down to their best advice for adoptive parents about raising their children to healthy adults and with vibrant connection. We have a transcript available so you can easily find any episode you’d like to refer back to.
Show Notes from the Season 1 Roundup: Best Advice for Adoptive Parents
Click on the name to go to the guest’s own site, listed in order of appearance in Ep 112. Click on the episode number for that guest’s full interview.
- Leah Campbell: adoptive parenting and living in open adoption, even when it’s hard. Ep 101.
- Dr Abbie Goldberg: the latest research from following adoptive families for 15+ years. Ep 109.
- Richard Uhrlaub: shifting from shame and secrecy to truth and transparency. Ep 104.
- Angela Tucker: on being wedged between the pain of one set of parents and the joy of another. Ep 105.
- Sara Easterly: on the dreaded phrase “you’re not my real mom!” and coming out of the adoptee fog. Ep 106.
- Clemencia Deleon: how a birth mom found her voice when her kinship adoption that was supposed to be open went way wrong. Ep 107.
- Ashley Mitchell: a birth mom’s perspective and the necessity for better adoption education. Ep 102.
- Kim Court and Linda Marie Mueller: on figuring things out during the “pioneer days” of open adoption. Ep 110.
- Rebecca Vahle: how to improve adoption now, with the founder of Family to Family Support Network. Ep 108.
- Lesli Johnson, MFT: on babies as blank slates and the neuroscience of adoption. Ep 111.
- Carolyn Savage: her inconceivable story about pregnancy, adoption, and surrogacy, thanks to an unthinkable IVF lab mix-up. Ep 103.
- Episode 112 transcript
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Until then, work on your own stuff, get comfortable with complexity and discomfort, listen to adoptee voices, and be aware of always being a safe space for your child to have their feelings.
And may you meet everything on your road ahead with confidence, capability, and compassion.
Lori Holden, mom of a young adult daughter and a young adult son, writes from Denver. She was honored as an Angel in Adoption® by the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute.
Her first book, The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow Up Whole, makes a thoughtful anytime gift for the adoptive families in your life. Her second book, Standing Room Only: How to Be THAT Yoga Teacher is now available in paperback, and her third book, Adoption Unfiltered, will be published in late 2023.
Find Lori’s books on her Amazon Author page and catch episodes of Adoption: The Long View wherever you get your podcasts.
Adoption whistle blowers admit that about ten percent of the adoptions were necessary. Assuming your child had a bad beginning is nearly always not true and a grave disservice to your child. Yes separating a child is always trauma. But thinking genetics is a problem is wrong and disrespectful.
I agree with some of what you say, Denise. But none of what you say is actually in this episode or podcast. Did you listen?
I used to have some hope that you were able ally. Now it’s clear you’re just another typical AP looking to profit from your position of privilege and off the backs of your adoptlings. You really can’t stand to be challenged, can you…
Let me ask you…did YOU listen?
Did you just call my son and daughter a pejorative? Do you suppose they sometimes read here and can see your words? Did you mean to insult fellow adoptees due to your perceived betrayal by me?
I’ve asked you privately (but you haven’t responded), and let me also ask you here: what in this podcast episode specifically are you referring to?